I could not for the life of me begin to comprehend how a woman can emotionally detach herself from the person she is engaging in a sexual relationship with, and for that matter perform a sex act purely in exchange for the money. Of course in our country there are millions of men and women who do just that on a daily basis; their profession is to provide sexual favors in exchange for money.
I've always wondered how these escorts can compartmentalize their lives, and in many cases lead these seemingly incongruous double lives—that of a sex for hire escort, and not have it bleed over into every other part of their consciousness and character. The real question for me is how and why would one choose to undertake such a lifestyle, and how can one rationalize and find a way to cope, and in some cases thrive under those circumstances?
In my quest to find an escort to interview, a woman reached out to me. She agreed to share some insight into her thinking process and essentially the how’s and the why's of her profession and her attempt to balance this double life she is so fully entrenched in. Her words are raw, honest and not for the faint-hearted, but will at least give you an insight into just why and how these women get through their days and rationalize working in the sex trade. For more about this escort you can check out her site.
As a woman how can you lead a life as an escort?
I was a real estate agent and I prostituted myself more in that career than I do now. I don’t find it degrading at all. I psyche and align myself up to the male’s thinking and he is all about testosterone. I get rid of my feelings and think only of what is on his mind. He has awoken horny and it hurts, there is one thing on his mind, and he wants to have a good time while he is at it and wants to be teased and pampered while he is at it. There are some escorts who go wham bam and make him cum right away and get out but not me. I do the whole half hour or hour and make sure he is pleased. I turn men down when they have bad breath. I have a hygiene routine that my doctor advises when they first come in. It is essential to get hep shots. I have them rinse with a mouth wash antiseptic and wash their hands with antibacterial soap.
Does your partner know? Does your family know?
Yes and he doesn’t like it, he was a former client and fell in love with me, we have been together for two years and he still gives me money, but financially there is nothing we can do about it. The money is very good and easy but is has become diluted because of the Chinese invasion, they cut costs in half and they use minors.
How do you juggle living in both worlds?
It is hard because I have to lie and feel deceitful about it. I am also a professional in another business, so I exaggerate how I am doing in that business.
Is being an escort something you enjoy, or is it strictly a business? How do you separate yourself from the men you work with on an emotional level?
I enjoy some clients and not others; it depends totally on their personality. I have become friends with a few. I compartmentalize. I don’t remember them after they walk out the door. I am passionate about my other business so the minute they are gone, I am on my computer working on my other business. If anything I feel when I get a call it is like an intrusion taking me away from my other business, but I have to do it for the money. What I don’t like about the business are the number of callers. They call and are wonking off. Only 3% make actual appointments and the rest are junk calls. So to answer your question, I enjoy it when they are here if I like their personality, I don’t enjoy the answering of the phone and otherwise it is a business but I give top performance and have a lot of repeats.
Are you out about what you do....do you feel like you are living a double life in some ways and what have you learned about the male psyche from your escort work?
Yes I feel that I am living a double life but I don’t feel shame, I feel that what I do is just a job like any other job. It is no different. It is just that it has a stigma and society looks down upon it. I have learned so much about the male psyche from doing this line of work; first of all, men adore women. They really do. They worship them if only women realized the power they hold over men. Second, men need sex on a frequent basis. They have testosterone and it needs to be released. Men secretly watch women we just aren’t aware of it. The clients I have no respect for are the ones who get frequent sex from their wives and are seeing escorts on top of that my service is for the man who isn’t getting enough sex.
The bottom line this career choice hasn’t stilted me at all, it is compartmentalized. I do think men are a little silly for the extremes they will go to, to be with a woman. If you can imagine going to a strange suite, not knowing what the person looks like for real and whether there is going to be a pit bull just because you are so horny.
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