Why We Don't Have a Babysitter
Last week a neighbor stopped by with his son to see if the kids could play, normally we run into them when I walk to pick up my daughter but since our schedules changed we hardly ever see them. On this day, my daughter wasn’t home but his son still wanted to play with my youngest. So I let him go to the neighbor’s house to play. And I still can’t believe I actually said okay. My husband was even surprised I let him go, not because we were worried about our neighbors, but because I actually let him go on his own.
There's something about him, I don’t know if it’s because he’s the youngest, or because caring for him has always been a little complicated, I have always felt the need to keep a watchful eye on him. Since his birth we needed to take extra care in selecting his diet, listen carefully to his breathing to manage his asthma and be prepared for nearly monthly visits to the doctor. Then to top it off he’s the ultimate dare devil. I get it, after all he is a boy, but that doesn’t mean you should try to balance on the handle bars of a rocking horse or try to cut your sister off on your bike by ramming your training wheels into hers. You would think he’s driving for Nascar.
Needless to say, trying to find a babysitter has been beyond difficult. We had one several years ago that was perfect, the kids loved her, and she has known both the kids practically since birth, but since she moved we have yet to find a replacement. It’s important to feel totally comfortable with who’s watching your kids, because the more comfortable you feel, the more fun you will have while away.
Looking back I don’t know how the parents of the kids I babysat did it, leaving their little ones with a 15 year old kid. But I guess things were a little different, people didn’t have nanny cams on the mantel and we didn’t have facebook to run a quick background check. When I was babysitting everything was based on trust and word of mouth.
But even with the extra security, protection and accessibility we have today, I find it hard leaving my kids with anyone but family and even that can be difficult at times.
When you need a time out who do you turn to, to watch your kids? Do you have a dedicated baby sitter? What type of screening do you do?