4th Times a Charm...
When I was pregnant with my first son, I remember actually being scared of childbirth. I didn't know what to expect. I didn't know if I would be able to actually do all the pushing. I didn't know if I would have contractions for a long time or a short time. I didn't know if I would be able to have him naturally or not. I didn't know a THING! And truth be told, I'm kind of glad I didn't... because nobody's birth story is exactly the same, it's a different personal experience for every single mother.
And so it was for me... with all of my 4 boys.
The birthdays of 3 of my sons are: September 25, 2004, September 28, 2005 and April 4, 2007. I had 3 deliveries that were all done vaginally. I had dream pregnancies, but not so dreamy deliveries. They were all born healthy and beautiful and perfect... but I wasn't in the best of shape after these 3 deliveries. For some reason, I have difficulty actually getting the babies out. I've become envious of the moms who can literally go into the hospital, push and viola! Baby's here! It's wasn't that way with my 3 oldest sons - at. all.
When I became pregnant with Henry six months after Benjamin (my 3rd son) was born, my doctor sat me down and told me that having another vaginal delivery wouldn't be safe for me or the baby. I had had 3 babies back to back to back and he was very concerned about me doing that for the 4th time... again, especially given the fact that my deliveries beforehand were so tough on my body and the babies.
So he scheduled me for a planned c-section.
I wasn't happy. I was terrified to have major surgery. But I thought like a mom, and I knew what was most important was the safety and healthy of my unborn child. So I accepted it.
It was weird the 4th time around planning my son Henry's birthdate. I actually got to choose between a few dates on a calendar. We chose June 17th, 2008. Oddly enough, we chose that date because the 2 other dates they gave us were already birthdays of other people in our family. We wanted Henry to have his own special day.
I remember going in that morning. I was nervous, but prepared. I wasn't worried about my water suddenly breaking in the market. I wasn't worried about having contractions and being stuck in traffic. I wasn't worried about anything other than just wanting him delivered safe and sound. That morning, truly... something very peaceful came over me. I was just truly ready to meet my little man. My 4th son.
When they were prepping me to have Henry, the nurses and doctor all were talking to me, asking me tons of questions about my family, the personalities of the boys, and truly making me feel as comfortable and as non-worried as possible. Within 40 minutes, a beautiful, little boy was born... my Henry. After having long and difficult births with William, Alexander and Benjamin... this was exactly what I needed. I needed something more planned. Something more safe for me and Henry. And something that I knew was going to get Henry here as fast as possible.
That days seems like a blur... it truly seems eons ago, and the funny thing is, my Henry is only 2 1/2 years old!
This is one of my fave photos... my mother getting sent a photo of Henry after he was born...
And then my oldest son seeing his brother for the very first time...
Me and my Henry as the boys walked into the hospital room to meet him...
And just like that... my family became a party of 6...
The c-section recovery took a little longer than my other guys, but it was truly the safest way for me to have my Henry. As I like to say... the 4th time was a charm. :)
Tune in to the new unscripted series "One Born Every Minute." Premieres Tuesday, February 1 at 10 pm et/pt on Lifetime.