Little Girls in Little Bikinis. No Way or Ok?
I am by no means a prude.
Or, at least I never considered myself to be one.
But when it comes to the subject of bikinis on little girls - sometimes I feel like I'm a bit on the conservative end of things.
I'm sure you remember a few months ago when Abercrombie and Fitch came under fire for selling a padded bikini under their Abercrombie Kids label? The brand is meant for children as young as 7 - so tell me, what is there to add padding to? The idea makes me shudder.
My daughter does indeed have a few two-piece bathing suits. The key there is TWO PIECE. Not bikini. None of this triangle top and string-tie nonsense. Oh heck no.
I do feel like we are over-sexualizing our girls. Bikinis are meant to show off your "goods", ladies. Be it your abs, your breasts, the junk in your trunk and your long and lean legs...see how sexual all of those things sound? So why in the world are we trying to show those off things in our little girls?! I fear we've lost sight of what is and isn't appropriate because we live in a world that is increasingly pushing the boundaries of what is acceptable sexually.
Remember when women only wore one-piece swimwear? Now we've even managed to make some of the one-piece suits out there look trashy - which is hard to do but we've done it - by cutting out the sides, adding necklines that plunge down to our belly buttons, and cutting out the backs to the extent that they practically show booty clevage. It's all quite extreme.
What happened to class? What happened to being covered up and looking elegant and sophisticated?
Even more, what happened to just looking like a little girl, and not trying to look like a woman years before it is time to do so?
I'm talking to you, Suri Cruise. Or should I say to you, Katie Holmes?
I was a 20 year old woman before I wore a 2-piece swimsuit. My mom didn't allow it. I wore one-piece suits all through high school. Even once I had graduated and I was on my own I still found myself gravitating towards the one-piece suits in the store. I didn't even think, even though I was using my own money and finally under my "own roof", that I should consider a bikini.
I will say that at 20 I finally purchased a bikini, and I never turned back. My white-hot bikini makes me feel sexy, and my fiance' has made clear his approval of how I look in it as well. That is exactly the reason my future pre-teen and teenage daughter will stick to a one-piece. My bikini makes me feel sexy, which makes me assume that a bikini will have the same effect on her. I have no desire for her to feel sexy until she is a full-blown woman.
And then, at that point, I will plug my ears and cover my eyes and sing "la la la la" - because I'm super mature like that.
I have a very strong-willed little girl who I have no doubt will enter into all-out battle with me over not being allowed to wear a bikini when "all of her friends are" and when she thinks it's time. It's at that time when I will stand the strongest. I don't care what Lucy and Chloe's moms are allowing them to wear - they are not my child. I am not angling to be my child's best friend, I'm angling to be her best MOM, well, because I'm her ONLY mom.
If I don't protect her and do my job, no one will do it for me. Let's put aside our own hang-ups and the desire to be "friends" with our children and remember that our children need us now more than ever, as parents.
So what do you think? Little ones in bikinis? Two pieces? Share your thoughts in the comments!