Are Pregnant Celebrities Over the Age of 40 Giving Women False Hope?!
This week actress Halle Berry announced she is pregnant with her second child at the age of 46. First of all, damn her for looking so young. And second, what?! Pregnant at 46? Whoa.
The actress and her fiancé Olivier Martinez are having their first child together. She has a 5-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.
She told one news outlet, "I feel fantastic. This has been the biggest surprise of my life, to tell you the truth. Thought I was kind of past the point where this could be a reality for me.”
We're surprised too Halle! But there are many celebrities embracing motherhood later in life. Actress Kelly Preston (wife of John Travolta) gave birth at the age of 47 after losing a teenage son. Celine Dion, Julianne Moore and Salma Hayek have all had babies in their forties.
But are these gorgeous, pregnant celebrities giving false hope to women who long to have a baby post 40 or encouraging other women to put off having children?!
I happen to think pregnancy is for the young. And this is coming from a woman who is currently 42 and pregnant. My husband and I were not planning on having more children (we have four) and frankly, I thought I was too old. Apparently not. I am exhausted and I haven't even given birth yet! And I don't look nearly as good as Halle Berry even when I am rested. I would have loved to have been a younger mom but my prince charming proved challenging to find so I got a late start.
Not only can it be tiring to have children later in life, but it's also a lot harder to get pregnant. Doctors start using that dreaded phrase, "advanced maternal age" at the age of 35. And the reality is that after 40, a woman's eggs decline in number and quality. Women in their 40s are at risk for high blood pressure, gestational diabetes, placental problems, miscarriages and birth complications. But risks can vary greatly depending on the overall health of the mother.
A lot of women who want to get pregnant past 40 will need to turn to fertility treatments. Did Berry undergo IVF or use a donor egg? I have no idea because that woman never confides in me. But the odds of getting pregnant naturally at her age are very low.
I'm genuinely happy for any woman who is able to get pregnant when she wants. Motherhood, with all its challenges, is an amazing gift. But more women seem to be waiting. Birth rates are going up for women in their late 30s and early 40s, according to a report from the National Center for Health Statistics.
My advice to the ladies out there... if you have found your soul mate and want to have a family, get started. Because you never know what kind of pregnancy challenges you might face and you want age on your side. Plus, kids demand buckets of attention and money. And you can't be fulfilling their needs if you are also researching retirement communities for yourself.
As for Halle's pregnancy - it's time to start watching the baby bump of course.