Is 19 Kids for Michelle Duggar Enough or Should She Go for an Even 20?
Reality television star and mother to 19 kids and 3 grandkids, Michelle Duggar recently announced that she and her husband Jim Bob are actively trying to get pregnant and add to their already large family. I have followed the Duggar family at a distance over the years and have had mixed feelings about their lifestyle and all that goes in to raising a family as large as theirs.
When I first read about the Duggar’s desire to have another baby I nearly fell out of my chair. I cannot imagine for the life of me why anyone would want to have 20 children. My great grandmother had twelve children and managed to raise them all to be responsible productive adults with families of their own. However, back in my great grandmother’s time large families were often necessary because the children were expected to help with the chores on the farm and around the house. These days, large families are not as abundant due to many reasons; financial resources being one of them.
I took to social media and asked for comments about the Duggars and found a wide variety of responses. While some folks, like my cousin thought that it was just plain crazy, others were in favor of the idea as long as the children are loved and provided for by their parents and not others (i.e. public assistance). There were others who wondered why this was even a topic of conversation. After all, people can have as many children as they want right? Someone even suggested that this should not even be newsworthy.
So why do we really care if Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar have another child or two or three? What does it matter if they have more children? Who does their decision to increase their family affect? To be honest, it should not matter to anyone what they do as long as they are able to care for their children, meet their financial responsibilities and stay out of trouble - which I believe they do.
The problem that I DO have with the Duggars is that they have exploited their lives and the lives of their children on reality television. Having a large family in my opinion should really not make them famous. As a matter of fact, nothing they do should make them famous, but somehow they have made us feel that what they do is so spectacular that they should receive celebrity status. They are even campaigning in Virginia for a gubernatorial candidate which seems odd to me since they are from Arkansas.
I admit that I have watched their show and have been intrigued by their lifestyle, but not because I think it’s an exceptionally good thing. I am intrigued by how they think it is okay to spread themselves so thin that their children have to sign up for appointments to spend time with their parents. Parents should be available to their children without having to sign up on a calendar to see them. Also, the older children are assigned to a younger one (or more) which means they are spending more time with their siblings than their parents. Chores are another issue. While I believe in giving my children chores and having them participate in the day to day operation of our home, I cannot agree with these children being subjected to as much as they seem to have. The laundry alone for this family is beyond overwhelming.
And let’s not forget the fact that at 46 years old, Michelle Duggar has been having babies for most of her adult life. Her body has to be exhausted from this and at some point it will not be healthy for her and could cause developmental problems for a baby. She has already admitted that her age may be a contributing factor in why she miscarried her last baby five months into the pregnancy. I do admire their strong faith and deep rooted Christian values they have instilled in their children. I also agree that children are a gift from God but I wonder if sometimes we expect too many gifts. In my own humble opinion there should always be a stopping point. It just makes sense to the whole circle of life theory.
I wish the Duggars nothing but happiness and good will and I hope that if there is another baby or two or three that they are able to provide the love and attention that each child deserves.