Should You Submit to Your Husband? Gabrielle Reece Thinks So
Former volleyball star Gabrielle Reece has been married to surfer Laird Hamilton for 17 years, and her secret to a successful marriage?
She explains that submission is a form of serving her husband which allows him to be more like the man she wants. Gabby sees submission has a form of strength, not weakness, as many may think. It was this form of “service” for her husband and family that she says kept her marriage from ending in divorce.
A marriage that lasts 17 years should be applauded, but I can’t say I agree with her views on making it last. What happened to partnership? Respect? Or compromise? Maybe all those things are part of her marriage, too, but saying that submission is a key part of success is misleading to many would-be couples. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to see the divorce rate go down, but I think that has more to do with people thinking of their partner more than themselves, learning to compromise, and showing respect to one another. I don’t think that being humbly obedient (aka “submissive”) is what makes you happy in a marriage.
But then again, what do I know? I’ve only been married 10 years to a man who would be horrified if I didn’t express my opinion on decisions, even if that means a disagreement. I’m the first to say that marriage is hard work, but that goes from both sides. Marriage is a partnership, where each party gives equally. I don’t unequivocally submit to my husband, but I do respect him and I think that makes a huge difference in our marriage and in my view of myself.
What do you think? Does Gabby have it right or is respecting one another in a marriage the answer?