The Duggars Consider Adoption. Are They Crazy?
The Duggars, the conservative Baptist family from Arkansas who are the subject of the TLC reality show "19 Kids and Counting," are considering adoption.
If you're anything like me, your first thought is, "Crazy." Your second thought is, "Crazy." Your third thought is, "Crazy."
But I really tried to see past these reactive thoughts and understand where Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar are coming from.
While I may not personally subscribe to their beliefs, they appear to be religious people who seem to feel grateful for what they have and want to share with those less fortunate. I get that and I appreciate it. But reality has to come into play at some point. The fact is, human beings can't successfully parent 20 kids.
Michelle Duggar says, "The kids are definitely pushing toward wanting us to open our home up to another child or more. They see how much we have been blessed with and how little so many children have, and they want to share."
It's good to know that their kids are on board, because the older kids are going to be the parents. I'm the youngest of six kids, and it was mostly my older siblings who raised me. And, for the record, they weren't really qualified. Having my 11-year-old sister making a pot roast dinner with me (age 4) and my brother (age 7) assisting while my parents were at work is not something I would recommend if you want to keep your kitchen curtains from going up in flames. And when my brother would tell me that the neighbor was a witch who cooked dogs in her fireplace, there was no one to tell me otherwise.
As a foster parent, I get calls about children who need placement. Sometimes we are in a position to help. Sometimes we aren't. At those times, while it's difficult to say no, it would be destructive to my kids if I didn't. I have three kids and two dogs. You know how many ears I have to clean? Toenails and fingernails I have to clip? There's dog walking and dirty diapers and homework every day, and these things are non-negotiable. How can two parents keep on top of this stuff with 20 kids? I get that the other kids pitch in, but aren't they entitled to a life of their own? Do they have to be constant caregivers to the next kid coming down the pike? Can't a Duggar kid hop on their banana-seat Schwinn without strapping a baby to the back of it?
What do you think about the Duggars adopting baby number 20?