Why I'm Not Fond of Hollywood Mom Bloggers
Initially I was going to title this article Hollywood celebrity mom bloggers love em or hate em?! And I was going to follow it up by pontificating about all the reasons why I find these Hollywood celebrity mommy bloggers so unsavory. I was going to write that the reason I became so fascinated with the world of blogging way back in 2008 was because of the transparency of the blogs. So many of these writers were pouring the details of their not so perfect lives into these viral journals. Their posts about their disenchantment and frustration with motherhood and the daily grind, their feelings of guilt, anxiety and pure joy in the simple bliss of having kids is what always kept bringing me back. I even started my own blog, Married My Sugar Daddy, for just that reason- to be able to carve out a little piece of the Internet that was all mine- a place for me to vent about what my marriage was really like behind the closed doors of our house, and in doing so, to hopefully hear others share, commiserate and offer their ideas about how they are making their marriages work one day a time.
The point of the blogosphere in my humble opinion, was supposed to be about that and for me at least, it is the only thing that will keep me returning on an almost daily basis to read a blog. So when celebrities, with their armies of household staff and their lives so stylistically crafted via their publicist agents and managers jumped into the blogosphere with their own mom blogs- I immediately felt betrayed and angry. No it's not that I begrudge them their right to blog about the common experience of motherhood- which is a theme that every mother should share -- but that their blogs seemed to lack the transparency so many of the non celebrity mom bloggers who are experiencing motherhood in the trenches without huge sums of money and help did. And I also wondered, were these words flowing from their fingers or perhaps these posts were manufactured by their assistants, publicists, etc.. in order to keep their " I'm a fabulous- real celebrity mommy juggling work and motherhood just like you" image intact. Let's, if we may, get real for a second-- I don't know many mom bloggers who have the luxury of blogging all day, while their husbands bring home the bacon, house keepers clean the house, nannies tend to their kids and personal chefs whip up sumptuous healthy well-balanced meals for them and their brood. Most of the mom bloggers I know are doing this blogging after logging full days outside the home, then logging more hours in the home and are FINALLY getting to their computers at the crack of 10 pm to unload their thoughts, feelings frustrations, ideas.
Most of these moms are doing all their mommying without the aid of anyone except perhaps for a date-night babysitter (during which time they are NOT blogging). When I read a blog I want to feel a stirring, a commonality I want to see at least a small part of myself reflected. I want their words to resonate, I want to feel like I am getting to know this blogger. And when I read the sanitized, highly stylized blog posting of some celebrities all I feel is; can you just shut-up? Is it just me? Apparently not. I asked a few of my gal pals on facebook for their insight into the celebrity mom blogger situation and whether or not they felt a sense of kinship with them and the answers I got were incredibly illuminating...
Ilina Das Ewen dirtandnoise.com; And for the most part, their writing skills suck.
Becky Kizirian DiStefano hautetags.net; I love any mom who's honest about how hard it is to be a mother...whether you have oodles of money or nannies, motherhood still challenges all of us and I think we all need to band together. As far as body after baby goes, they can all suck it...it's easy to get back into shape when you have trainers and personal chefs and most of the time you are naturally thin since you're a celeb, they go hand in hand...that irritates me "3 weeks after baby and she's back" I said "suck it" because I'm tired of women flaunting their perfect bodies after they give birth...THAT doesn't help anyone, it makes others feel bad and there is no other reason for them doing it than to show off. Then you have moms like Wendy Wilson (of Wilson Philips) not a mom blogger but she went on Celebrity Supernanny because she admitted she needed help! I love honest celeb moms. I can't watch Tori and Dean because he cheated on his ex with her and it just seems like they started with bad karma
Nicole Andrews Moore suddenlysinglejourney.com; Yes! Not only are they not in the trenches, but they set unrealistic expectations for the rest of us. I could be a size 4, too, if I had a personal chef, a personal assistant, and a personal trainer. I'm lucky if I have personal TIME
Mary Targia youngurbanmoms.com; Motherhood definitely emotionally unites us all, however when you have a team of help that allows you to still have "me" time and hit up the red carpets, it's not quite as challenging...
Amy Benton Bradley-Hole freakyperfect.com; I don't mind them. Moms come in all styles. Just because they don't necessarily lead the same lifestyle as me doesn't mean they are any less of a mother. Sure, they may not understand what it's like to have a messy house and nothing in the fridge, but they have their own issues. I bet we can't relate to having to protect kids from paparazzi or being gone for work for weeks at a time. Motherhood is a tough job, no matter the details of the job description, and we're all in it together. We should be supportive of all moms. It really makes me sad to hear women telling other women to shut up or suck it just because their experiences differ. As if it's not hard enough to be a mom or a woman, here we go again being our own worst enemies.
Toni Patton juststopscreaming.com; Some I like but some like kourtney kardashian not at all.
Kristin Lesney-Ruiz ourordinarylife.com; Hate for, the exact reasons you do. They're not relatable at all. They're hardly moms let alone bloggers. I don't even trust the fact that they write their own content, no thanks. No way.
Vivian Manning-Schaffel vivianmanningschaffel.com; By indulging in the whim to "write," celebs make it harder for legit writers to find work. Granted, there are exceptions, but they usually bring no innovative expression to the table - they just look more glam than the average blogger does while demonstrating the sacred art of grinding baby food
Linda Grant nycsinglemom.com; Hate for the hypocrisy and my number hated celebrity mom is Gywneth Paltrow - with the exception of SJP who says she has help they all make it sound like they dont have a bastion of people helping them. We all know its true so why not own up to it. We all look to be size 2 and ready for vogue cover if we had a nanny, chef, trainers, hair and make up people Good grief.
Nichelle Pace stylemom.com; I'm 50/50 on this one...there are some of the "lesser known" Hollywood moms, or ones that aren't acting/performing as much, that are blogging now that don't have the resources of say a Gwyneth Paltrow...Goop (Gwyneth's website which by the way, has great styling but this content is not realistic for any mother I know). I love Soleil Moonfrye's blog...Punky Brewster can do no wrong in my eyes...and I think Tori Spelling does a good job with her blog ediTORIal.... it's not exactly blogging, but I'm a huge fan of Jessica Alba on facebook, she is constantly sharing her "normal" family life, nothing glamorous, and I can appreciate that...when hollywood moms actually care about having a POV and sharing a real message with other mothers, I love it, but when it's just for PR or for a sponsor..#thumbsdown
Shari Balter Von Holten haveuheard.net; They need an official title 'Hollywood Mommy Blogger'. While we are all moms, they do have the added benefit that most of us do not have -i.e. personal chef, trainer, nanny, etc. Something tells me Kourtney Kardashian is not uploading her own videos to her blog that is hosted on E!
Lee Allport mysentimentexactlee.com; LOL I don't "hate em" per say but I totally know what you mean Melissa. It annoys me that they are the ones who have the "big" sites and they probably have very little to do with it.
Jill Richardson Berry musingsfromme.com; My skin crawls when I watch tori and Dean. I'm a reality TV junkie but this show is sickly sweet and everything is perfect. I much prefer a show where kids are acting crazy and well, more like my own kids.
Mary Bauer Bratt Prez brattdecor.com; I'd say some are good, and some are bad. It's great when you connect, get some encouragement and get the message that you're not alone. They are bad when they make you feel less about yourself and pretend life is perfect. It's not. It's messy, and wonderful, and exhausting, and about a billion other things, sometimes all at once.
Rebecca Cleary limelight31.com I wonder if there are inner city moms who are struggling to provide the necessities, or moms whose husband are incarcerated, or teen moms just trying to make it day by day who might be ” hating” on me, the middle class mom just doing things that are normal to me. Do they hate me because I don't have to bring a calculator to the grocery store to keep track of every penny in my cart so I don't go over at the register? Maybe they hate me because I can afford a gym membership. I hope that those moms who are struggling and who have to work their fingers to the bone just to survive and who can never afford date nights, spa days, big birthday parties our any of the ” normal” things in my life don't hate me because I am different than they are ...
Tracy Hicks Price pricelessmemories.jimdo.com; I actually haven't looked at celebrity mom blogs because I enjoy reading the blogs by moms who I share more in common. Fascinating as their life is, I just strive to make my life as good as it can be, without lusting after or being jealous over what they have been blessed with. I have lots of my own blessings, and sometimes seeing the light shed by my peers is all I need to remember who I am and who I can be!
Now it's your turn to weigh in!