3 Weeks Until the Kids Return. Should I Work…or Get a Tummy Tuck?
For the past few years, my children have spent their summer in London with their Dad. Ever since he made the post-divorce move back to his native England, my summers have been turned upside down. And my life now includes a transatlantic visitation arrangement. And a kid-free summer.
This year they went away for 8 weeks. Ouch!
While other mothers share their summer tales of lazy nights, beach-filled days and family trips, I have only kid-free summer memories to share. A mother without summer stories seems less of a mother.
Of course, I do have my fun. And I try to enjoy my well-deserved break. I get used to the quiet and the beauty of hearing myself think anytime I want, bathing uninterrupted and not worrying about preparing dinner or other meals. Heck, microwave popcorn is a meal.
It takes me about half of my summer break to get comfortable (as comfortable as one can get) and stop worrying, and then the other half I panic about all the things I didn't get to do.
Which brings me to where I am right now. With only 3 weeks left to my kid-free summer, I'm feeling a little rushed to have some fun. I spent the first half traveling for work in a way that I can't when the kids are home. The money is good but the constant travel was grueling. I thought I was being practical with my time, until I found out my divorced girlfriend used her 3-week break from her kids to get a tummy tuck and recover.
That would have probably much more rewarding use of my time.
I've got issues. I'm way behind in my dating goals. I have writing projects that are behind schedule.
And unlike my girlfriend, I don’t even have a surgically enhanced body to show for it.
Truth is, even when they are gone, I still think about what's best for them (focusing on my role as their provider) rather than focusing on me and my need to relax and enjoy the nothingness. I really should have tried to mix it up more. And with a plan and not a last-minute scramble. Aaargh!
If anyone has a 12-step program out there for moms like me, please let me know.
If you had a break from your kids over the summer, what did you do with it?