Help, I'm Addicted to Silence!
When you’re a mom everything is so noisy. From the moment I get up, or I should say the kids get up, I’m off and running. Sometimes it’s good noise, laughter and cheers other times whining and crying, not so good. Whatever the noise there’s just not that much down time. Someone always needs something, and as the mom you’re the one that’s there to help. The only quiet time for me is when my toddlers go to bed, and I mean really go to bed. When they stop calling for one more drink of water, one more potty break, when the house is truly silent. I love that time. I can finally do what I need/want to without interruption. I can finish a thought. I can watch TV and it doesn’t have to be on Sprout. I can get a lot of work done. I’m starting to get addicted to the silence. When I get into “the zone” I can’t stop. So much so that just a few hours is not enough anymore. I need another fix.
But as with any addiction it all comes at a price, and that price is sleep. I’ve been staying up way too late. By the time my kids go to sleep it’s already at least 8:30, then I may have dishes to wash, laundry to fold, and then I have my “me” time. For me, that usually involves work or the computer. It’s like the new” happy hour”. Are moms across the country all staying up late to get that me time?
I went to a conference, and many of the women I talked with say they stay up a little too late to get that me time. When I send a late night (after midnight) e-mail, sometimes I’m surprised to to get a response and it makes me feel not so alone. Of course the practical part of me knows that staying up late is not the answer. The best way to be productive is to get a good night’s sleep, wake up before the kids to get some “me” time and you will be much more focused and organized before they need you. But the selfish part of me wants to stay up all night and do whatever “I” want. But when you binge there is always a hangover. I definitely paid for in the morning on the days I indulge myself. So I guess knowing you have an addiction is the first step, right? I think this serves as a reminder to myself to get back on track. I need to schedule more “me” time somewhere so I’m not craving it, and sacrificing my sleep.
How about you? How late do you stay up? What do you like to do with your “me” time when the kids are asleep?