Me Time for Mom – Practicing Self-Care
By Mollee Bauer, General Manager, Pregnancy.org
Is there such a thing as “me time” for moms? Between juggling work, family, car trips, errands, diapers and laundry, it sure doesn’t feel like such a cherished item exists.
Self-care is something that is close to my heart. It isn’t the easiest goal to attain but it is worth its weight in gold. Moms will often feel guilty or have the belief that they don’t deserve time off. The very idea that women feel they do not deserve or can’t take time for themselves is not only detrimental to our health, but also illogical.
If we don’t take care of ourselves, who is going to step in when we can’t? It is impossible for a mom to take care of her family if she’s running ragged and falling apart at the seams. There comes a point where the proverbial foot just has to come down.
There’s lots of advice out there around learning meditation, exercising, going for strolls or taking a mental health day as a way to recuperate and regroup. But what if you’re feeling so overwhelmed that you can’t see straight? Your support system of friends and family only goes so far. We are responsible for ourselves and making sure we’re healthy, happy and ready to take on the world.
So how do we get this elusive and mysterious “me time” to happen? You don’t need a fairy godmother to say, “abracadabra.” Instead, use these helpful hints to get you started. The rest will be up to you!
- Arrange for someone to watch, pick up or deal with the kids once a week or once month. Use this precious time for something you really want to do that is NOT an errand or task. This is your opportunity to recharge your batteries.
- Decide what’s your highest priority for self-care. Will it be pampering or visiting with friends? Is it taking a much needed yoga class or an hour at the park reading a book? Whatever you choose, make sure it’s attainable and something you can do consistently. It doesn’t do you any good to do it once, wait six months and do it again. The key is getting into a rhythm of taking care of you first and foremost.
- Talk with your partner and communicate how important it is that you get some downtime. You can always cite studies and statistics, but your partner’s eyes are liable to glaze over. Instead, have a plan in mind, set up a time to communicate your needs and make it happen. Do you feel like you’re not able to do that? Gather up your inner strength. The worst thing anyone will tell you is “no.” This doesn’t mean it’s time to give up. You’re worth it. Fight for your well-being.
How will you make taking care of yourself a priority? Shout it out!