Must Do Items For The Single Mother's Day
I am not one for material things. I don’t have nice shoes – I prefer wearing flip-flops for as many months out of the year as possible. I don’t have nice purses – lately I have been using a gym bag to tote my belongings around the Big Apple. And I don’t buy nice jewelry – every piece of jewelry I own has been a gift.
But I do believe in treating myself, even if I am on a tight budget...so I drew up a list of things that I could do for myself for Mother’s Day. My daughter is only 18-months-old so she is too little to plan anything…which I do not hold against her at all. As long as she sleeps past 5:45am on Sunday.
Like my sister has repeated to me over and over again – “A happy mom is a happy child.”
#1 Make a meal…for yourself!!!
Frequently, I make a meal for Ellie and either I eat what she is eating, or I throw something together and inhale it while standing over the counter emptying the dishwasher.
But a couple Saturdays ago I was watching a cooking show and they were making these awesome fajitas and guacamole, and I began to crave it. I took Ellie grocery shopping, bought of all the ingredients I needed, waited until she was sound asleep – and I went to work cooking – for me.
It felt so good, sitting down at the table, eating like a civilized human being. And I bet you would feel the same way too. Try it! And don’t let any of those silly, “Oh, it’s not worth it to cook an entire meal for just one person,” thoughts get in the way.
Cook what you want and eat it without doing anything else. You will thank me.
#2 Don’t forget bath time, and I am talking about your own.
Ah…remember the days that feel like they were from another lifetime, where you would get in the shower…and oh, I don’t know…wash all parts of your body thoroughly AND condition your hair, while soaking in that nice hot steam from your shower? Or, after a hard workout or a chilly day, you would run a warm bath and soak long enough that your fingers pruned?
Yes, I recall those days fondly too, however now all of my personal hygiene activities are accompanied by the soundtrack of low-grade to moderate whining.
So be kind to yourself, and either wait until the kids are in bed, or ask a friend to come over and entertain them while you enjoy one of life’s simplest pleasures – a nice, long soak. You bet I will be doing that this weekend.
#3 If someone offers to do something for you, say “Yes!”
One of my closest friends called me a few months ago to let me know she was going to be in town for the week leading up to Mother’s Day. Initially she recommended that we plan a long girl’s weekend, but I had to put those plans on the back burner due to budgetary concerns. And because she is really one of the most understanding people I have ever met, she said, “No problem.” And she even offered to plan something enjoyable for us to do locally.
Before she could even get the words out of her mouth to ask if I was onboard – I said, “YES!!!” She asked if I wanted to weigh in or know any details, and I said, “No thank you. Just tell me where I need to meet you and when.”
Knowing that I will be celebrating Mother’s Day with something that took absolutely no planning on my part makes me happier than I can explain.
And the fact that it will be with one of my favorite people on the planet makes it downright fabulous.
#4 Sleep in!
How, you might ask, are you supposed to sleep in if you have little people to tend to in the wee hours of the morning, and no partner to help tend to them? Rest assured, for every problem – there is a solution (or at least that is what I keep telling myself so that I don’t lose my mind). A mom-friend of mine suggested the idea of the early morning babysitter. What is that? Well you find a sitter that you really trust, or a very kind close friend, and you ask them to come over before the kids get up and do the morning routine – so you can sleep in!!!!
Now I have not tried this yet, and honestly, when I go home to visit my parents they sometimes take on morning duty, but sleeping past 7am in my own bed sounds delightful. So if any of my friends are interested in seeing the sun rise with the cutest kid in the city – you know how to find me!
And after writing this, now I am excited to think of the list of things to do for myself for Father’s Day. Suggestions are always welcome.