Just for Me
The Weekend The Women Left (and went to BlogHer)
Let me preface this post with a statement...technically I did not leave my family to attend BlogHer in NYC, instead I went home every night because; a) I live in NYC and b) the mere thought of leaving my two kids and two dogs with my husband for four nights and five days had me nearly breaking out in hives. I admit I am a type-A personality when it comes to keeping my house in order, and I am convinced if I were to leave my husband to his own devices for that period of time, I would return to a home that was unrecognizable.
And my suspicions were simply reaffirmed when I came home on Thursday night to find sticky watermelon juice covering the table and kitchen floor, peach pits littered about and well you get the gist. When I questioned my husband about why he couldn't clean up- he said verbatim, "I can't clean as good as you." Which is code word for; "when you leave this house all bets are off and I am not responsible for keeping it to your liking." So, I can ONLY imagine what kind of scene I'd inevitably return to after being away for several days...perhaps five days worth of watermelon juice layered into a thick sticky pol of ick.
But lest you think I am a cleaning Czar, there are several other factors involved in the reason it is so hard for me to leave my family. I have a 13 year old blind Shih Tzu who has very specific needs, similar to that of an elderly person. When I care for her, it's akin to caring for a senile loved one, and my husband just doesn't have the same affinity for her that I do. If she goes days without eating (as she needs to be fed in a very specific way) he would say, "She won't die." That is just unacceptable to me. Oh and then there's the kids' schedules and his absent minded way of not taking down phone numbers and dates and thinking our seven year old has all the information. Yeah, our seven year old has a hard time remembering what he ate for breakfast, I'm pretty sure he has no idea where or what he needs to be doing and when he should be doing it.
At BlogHer, as I looked around this sea of thousands of women who were in NYC for five to seven days, sans kids and husbands, I asked anyone who would divulge it, just how they were able to bid adieu to their significant other and kids and not spend the entire time away biting their nails in anticipation of the hailstorm of dirty socks, dishes and anorexic dogs who would be waiting for them upon their return home. Ninety percent of these women said either their mother or mother-in-laws were holding down the fort, and helping their husbands. What struck me was that so many were mainly relying on their mothers and mothers-in-law to keep things running smoothly- aka other women who would understand and take into consideration all the little things that men are either completely oblivious to, or in my husband's case simply choose to ignore.
All of this has me even more excited about Lifetime TV's new show The Week The Women Went, an unscripted series which explores modern gender roles and exposes what happens when all of the women leave town, leaving the men behind to run their households, businesses and community on their own. I honestly don't think my heart could take that kind of bold move, but gosh darn it I applaud these women!
**Could you imagine a whole community of women leaving town for 7 days? See how the social experiment unfolds in the new unscripted series "The Week The Women Went" Tuesdays at 10/9c on Lifetime. Watch full episodes online >>