Beyoncé Calls Herself a “Modern-Day Feminist” – Haters Back Off
Oh boy. Here we go. Beyoncé is being criticized for her comments in the latest Vogue UK, where she makes several attempts to clarify, or explain, or deny, or re-clarify whether or not she is a feminist. “I am a modern-day feminist” she states, which she defines as a woman who A) believes in equality and independence, etc., but also B) loves her baby, motherhood, marriage and her husband enough to name her whole entire world tour after his namesake!
Gasp! No. She. Didn’t.
Yup. She sure did.
She went all backward and antiquated and named her tour the Mrs. Carter Show, for which, by the way, she has gotten a lot of heat from – you guessed it – feminists. And yet, some feminists are angry at Beyoncé’s refusal to fully embrace the term.
Really? Though I am no big fan of Bey, I do get what she and many women in her generation, and even my own, are saying – if only, instead of getting all worked up, women would listen.
As strong, independent, self-motivated, high-achieving, vocal, opinionated women, who go for what we want, we have found as we’ve gotten older that, hey, men aren’t all misogynist pigs. And, hey, being barefoot, while pregnant, does NOT suck. And, wow, I would rather be home with my family than trying to take over the world. We’ve come to realize that choosing our babies and husband over that corporate position isn’t so bad (although we are still made to feel like losers for it). We’ve come to realize that we can take over the world on our own terms. Personally, I like world-conquering while barefoot and pregnant, preparing dinner for my man, whose name I proudly took on, while uploading the contractual agreements for that new freelancing gig while my babies pulled at my skirt looking to get breastfed. My choice. And I don’t feel that I have been brainwashed or manipulated about it, either.
The problem with feminism is that we haven’t really been able sell the point to the younger generation that you can be a feminist and still openly and proudly want these things and advocate for them.
Don’t believe me? Just look at the division among feminists during the ongoing Sheryl Sandberg publicity campaign. It seems having your own opinion about the matter is an offense…because opinions are great, as long as they follow the guidelines of what it is to be a feminist. What side of the argument is right? Who the hell knows? At some point, I stopped listening (a lot of us stopped listening) to the rhetoric and just went and did whatever I wanted anyway.
Our generation of women has benefited plenty from those who went out and hit the pavement for many of the rights we enjoy today. Feminists fought, and continue to fight, the fight so that we women have the freedom of choice. So then, why are we so often criticized, attacked and ridiculed for the choices we make – by other women, no less? Or is our freedom of choice limited to the standards that fit the ideology of an elite few? 'Cause, let’s face it, the class, racial and socio-economic demographic of feminism isn’t all that far-reaching in the female spectrum.
Feminist advocates need to develop a way to make us feel like we fit in, like we belong, like we are valued regardless of the choices we have made. They say they are fighting for us women – but are they really? Or are they only fighting for what THEY believe in?
If feminists want to stop being associated with the group that’s always pissed off – and really, that’s what so many women for generations have associated feminism with – then they need to stop being pissed off at everyone who doesn’t follow their overall agenda – including whether a woman wants to call herself a feminist or not.