Celebrities Like Rihanna are Sending the Wrong Message to Young Female Fans
This week Law & Order: SVU aired their much buzzed about episode, based on the relationship of Chris Brown and Rihanna. And if you have it saved on your DVR, here comes the spoiler alert.... it has a deadly, violent end.
The episode is difficult to watch. But so is the true story of Chris and Rihanna. At the Grammy awards this year, they were very much the talented power couple, looking gorgeous and united. But the ugly past lurks over them. Because it was just before the 2009 Grammy's, that Brown brutally assaulted Rihanna. She has forgiven him but, I can not. Their future may not end up as tragic as depicted on Law & Order, but it's impossible for me to believe that he won't at some point abuse her again.
And very recently in the New York City area, local CBS News anchor Rob Morrison was arrested after he allegedly choked his wife and threatened to kill her. His wife is CBS financial news anchor Ashley Morrison. This was not an isolated incident. Police have responded to domestic disputes in their home many times before.
I've never been in an abusive relationship, but as a mom of three girls, I hate the message this sends to young women.
After Chris Brown attacked Rihanna, she dumped him and sent a powerful message to her millions of female fans - I'm a strong woman and I will not let a man mistreat me. By forgiving him, hasn't she expressed the opposite to all those young girls?
She told Rolling Stone, "Of course everybody has their opinion about him, because of what he's done. That will always be there. But he made a mistake, and he's paid his dues. He's paid so much. And I know that's not a place he would ever want to go back to. And sometimes people need support and encouragement, instead of ridicule and criticism and bashing."
I feel like that's the mantra of abused women... He's changed. This time it will be different. But it rarely is.
Monica Brenner, a New York mom of three kids, says, "It's sad. That's why young people need to have a positive self image and positive role models. So they know not to stay in a relationship like that."
I will be the role model for my girls. I will teach them that you never put up with physical and verbal abuse. But I worry about the young girls who aren't lucky enough to have role models in their lives. The ones who see a superstar like Rihanna standing by her man and think, if her abusive boyfriend can change than maybe mine can too.
And the results could be tragic.
(Photo credit: Christopher Polk / Getty Images for NARAS / February 10, 2013)