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(Childless) Blogger Tells Parents to STFU About Their Kids
Have you heard the news? Another woman, who doesn’t have children of her own, has a developed a website mocking parents who, in her opinion, overshare.
The site, Shut The F*ck Up Parents (STFU, Parents) is so big – 1.5 million readers, that the blogger, Blair Koenig, has gotten a book deal. And it was this book deal that forced her out from hiding behind her blog and to come forward – I mean, she has to market the book after all.
She’s already making the rounds in the media circuit, because as her millions of readers and book deal have proven, nothing sells more than mothers judging and hating on each other. People just can’t seem to get enough of it.
In all fairness, it wasn’t the media who made her famous. It was her readers. Many of them other parents who think it entertaining to judge and laugh and point fingers at others who reach out to and rely on their community and friends for information, support, and yes, on occasion , folks who also happen rant about their kids.
That a woman who has never experienced motherhood or any of the things she finds are too “ridiculous” to be posted on your status updates or blogs, is in itself the most laughable aspect of this whole scenario.
Just like childless travelers on a plane who hate children (and parents) and go viral with hostile videos of intolerance and lack of empathy, this woman judges. She has made a career for herself on issues she can’t even begin to understand as she attempts to get rich on reasons she can’t even wrap her quaint little childless head around.
The truth is, as parents we often can’t believe ourselves that many of the things the experiences we have with our kids, are really, real. That despite all the books we’ve read, the prenatal classes we attended, all the mommy and me sessions we’ve been to, all the nature-nurturing, baby wearing, breastfeeding, and co-sleeping we have done, our kids can, in fact, be complete a-holes.
Who do parents turn to when in need of advice? Well, other parents of course. People who will understand and be supportive, and wipe away the tears making you realize that it’s really funny in the end. Making you realize that this whole journey is insane, but you’re not and neither is your kid. And those with older kids have seen it all and can tell other parents how to survive. Sharing seemingly simple, or funny or sometimes moments can be very therapeutic, and for many mothers who don’t have anyone else to talk to – it can be lifesaving.
Her readers, those other parents who just love the platform, are just looking for ways to make themselves feel better about their own bad experiences and parental failures – because we all have them.
Don’t like it? Don’t read it. But to scoop out content, obviously not intended for her, to then profit off of something she can’t even begin to comprehend, makes me just want to grab a bucket of popcorn and wait for the time when it becomes Ms. Koenig’s turn. When she needs to vent, or needs a listening ear. And oh man, she better be ready though, cause I’ve never seen karma to be too forgiving.
That she “would never” is not a promise she can even make, let alone keep. And if she tries her hardest and really sticks to it, then all I can say is, “I’m sorry.” I’m sorry if she honestly believes that when it’s her time to parent, she won’t need a community of her own to vent to. Because I know that without my community, I would have gone crazy by now.
But I get it. She just doesn’t understand. So, until then Ms. Koenig, how about you shut the f*ck up instead.