In My Opinion
Having an Ultrasound Party? Please Don’t Invite Me!
Just when I thought there couldn’t be anything more ridiculous than gender-reveal parties, it seems self-indulgent moms came up with a new way to over share: Ultrasound parties.
For a couple hundred dollars, an ultrasound technician sets up a portable ultrasound machine in your living room, allowing friends and family to observe your baby in utero while sipping cocktails and noshing on pigs-in-blankets. Ultrasound parties offer expectant parents another chance to view their precious offspring, something I can totally understanding wanting to do. What I can’t understand is why any pregnant woman would want her relatives present, leaning over her lubed-up belly to peer at the monitor. At no time during any of my ultrasound appointments did I think, “Gee, wouldn’t this be more fun if we opened up the door and invited people in to watch?”
Besides giving parents-to-be the opportunity to show off their unborn baby’s tiny fingers and vaguely defined profile in real time, ultrasound parties are also being used as high-tech gender-reveal parties. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I just can’t understand the want or the need to have an audience for this type of personal moment. Learning the gender of our baby was an extremely emotional event for my husband and me, as I imagine it is for many expectant parents. Why would anybody want such a private experience to be made public?
Hopefully the worst that happens at a gender-reveal ultrasound party is that you are publicly disappointed to learn you are having a boy when you wanted a girl – or vice versa. But what if there is something medically wrong with your baby? Dr. Amber Sills made a good point when she told Today, “What if the ultrasonographer started the ultrasound and there was no heartbeat? Or what if the fetus had not developed a skull/head/brain? This happens more than most people realize. What do you do then?”
Bottom line: If you’re planning to host an ultrasound party, please don’t invite me. While I may be excited that you’re having a baby, I'm not as excited for you as you are for yourself. And peeking inside your uterus? Well, that's just creepy and unnecessary. And while we're on the subject of creepy, would you please stop posting your baby’s 3D ultrasounds as your Facebook profile pictures? You may think your unborn baby is adorable, but the rest of the world (myself included) thinks he looks like an alien.