Is Scientology To Blame For The Demise Of TomKat's Marriage?
When you are in the trenches of planning a wedding and high on bridezilla adrenaline, caught up in whether your flower arrangements should feature lilies or roses, there's little time to contemplate the very real issues that could potentially arise once the big shebang is a distant memory. For Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, those problems seemed to bubble to the surface once their daughter Suri turned six.
However if their union is indeed a real relationship, and not a contractual arrangement which has been speculated perhaps Holmes, who was raised Catholic, fell so deeply and madly in lust with Cruise and he with her (remember that manic couch jumping charade he pulled off on Oprah, that even had miss O, ever the composed TV talk show hostess looking like a deer caught in headlights) - then like so many other interfaith couples before them they assumed they'd work through their opposing religions and come to some sort of compromise. Perhaps they believed the love they had for one another and their commitment to their union and their family would provide them with the framework of strength they needed to draw upon when making the most important decision of all, how to raise their kids.
The truth is, I can see how religion can drive a major wedge between a couple. Thirteen years ago, when I got married- all heady from wedding gown fittings, arguments with the photographer and the fact my husband, a very secular Jew, agreed to celebrate our union in a most Orthodox, Jewish way -- the word “yeshiva” would not have been a blip on my radar screen. I assured him, as my father outfitted him with a special tallis and yarmulka, that the only religious part of our union would be our wedding ceremony. But, two kids later, I understand the phrase “never say never' and both my kids have been attending yeshiva for the past eight years. But I am also lucky that my husband yielded to my wishes in this regard. If he hadn't, our love story might have had a very different ending.
While I think it would be easy to blame Scientology for the demise of Tom and Katie's relationship, by the same token, every religion has values and mores that might seem odd and bizarre to those not entrenched in them. And while Scientology is a easy target, with its alien galactic ruler named Xenu along with Katie's alleged fear that once her daughter turned six she'd be shipped off to an ultra religious and strict Scientology school where she'd be subjected to a form of interrogation called sec checking. Ultimately I think difference in religion, regardless of whether it's Catholicism or Scientology, can drive a wedge between a husband and wife when it comes to the raising of their kids.
What do you think? Is Scientology to blame for the demise of TomKat's marriage or is it the fact that as an interfaith couple they couldn't agree on how to raise their child ?