My Thoughts on Supreme Court Adoption Ruling
My heart breaks for a family I will never know. I shared with you why I chose International adoption a while back. After reading that the U.S. Supreme Court threw out a lower court order requiring a South Carolina couple to turn over a young girl they had raised since birth to her biological father simply because the father was an American Indian affirms my international adoption decision. As I read the about the case my heart breaks for this South Carolina family.
"Under the State Supreme Court's reading," Alito wrote, "a biological Indian father could abandon his child in utero and refuse any support for the birth mother ... and then could play his ICWA trump card at the eleventh hour to override the mother's decision and the child's best interests," Alito wrote. "If this were possible, many prospective adoptive parents would surely pause before adopting any child who might possibly qualify as an Indian under the ICWA."
I have to agree with Alito. This case would factor into my decision to adopt domestically and I would caution any person to consider this ruling before starting a process similar. I have friends who suffered failed domestic adoptions in the past. The heartache that they suffered was horrific and they had their babies placed in their homes for only weeks. They still suffer with the pain from the removal of the children. Several never had a successful domestic adoption and others ended up having successful International Adoptions.
The Supreme Court did not grant the couple an adoption, but threw out the South Carolina court decisions awarding custody to the father. This poor child. My heart breaks for her too. She has been taken from the only "Mom and Dad" that she knows. Of course no adoption process is easy and without pain, however one would certainly think that years later they should be allowed to "feel safe" in giving their heart completely to their child. Though I don't dismiss the biological father's pain, I just can't imagine how this family will be able to overcome this ruling. I wish I could hug them because there are no words to make them feel better or help them through their pain.