One More Thing on Facebook That Might Make You Feel Bad About Yourself!
Facebook can have a way of making us feel kind of crappy. Like... Look at my awesome vacation (that you aren't on)! Look at my perfectly groomed kids! (Yours probably didn't even brush their teeth this morning.) Let me tell you about my big publishing deal! (How's your dead end job?)
You know that kind of stuff.
Which is probably why this photo posted on Facebook of California mom Maria Kang and her three sons got quite the backlash...
I mean, I bow down to her that she can look like that after three kids. I lost all my baby weight and my body looks nothing like it once did. Things are stretched out and in the wrong places. For the record, no one ever mentioned this before I had kids. But Kang's body clearly bounced back with some hard work.
The photo and caption is meant to inspire. But it created an outcry on Facebook. She was accused of fat shaming and bullying.
She did post a "first and final apology" that mentioned her own struggles to be fit and ended like this, "So if you want to continue 'hating' this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life. You can either blame, complain or obtain a new level of thought by challenging the negative words that come out of your own brain."
So much for a warm and fuzzy apology.
I get that she wants to inspire other women with a tough love message: Don't use motherhood as an excuse to be overweight and out of shape. But usually women are so critical of themselves that they don't really need anyone else pointing out their flaws and shortcomings.
A mom who has yet to lose that final 15 pounds of pregnancy weight is probably not going to be propelled into action by Kang's insanely flat abs. There's something about the photo that brings you right back to high school - the pretty, popular girl humiliating the girls that haven't quite bloomed yet.
Kang just misses the mark. She forgot that we mothers need to hold each other up, support each other and motivate each other.
Maybe a different caption would have made all the difference.
Like, "Motherhood is fierce on the body but don't forget, you're fierce too." Kind of like the famous Nike ad, "Just Do It." Meaning no more excuses. Get out there and be your best self.