Parents Behaving Badly: Teaching Their Teens to Shirk Responsibility
I think we all learned one thing recently. If you are looking to throw a crazy party - don't do it at ex-NFL star Brian Holloway's house. Because he will not take it lightly.
Over Labor Day weekend, hundreds of teens broke in and reportedly destroyed his upstate New York vacation home. Holloway says there was $20,000 in damage, including smashed windows and doors, urinated carpets, holes in the ceiling, graffiti, and stolen items.
Well, Holloway got even. He took party photos and tweets from Twitter and re-posted them on a website he created called Help Me Save 300. On the site, he writes about his desire to save these kids from alcohol and drug problems.
But maybe it's some of the parents who have the problem. Instead of apologizing for their kids' horrendous behavior and making amends, some are threatening to sue Holloway because identifying the teens online means he's ruining their chances of getting into college.
Those kids chose to participate in illegal, destructive behavior. Plus, they outed themselves by posting their antics on social media. Holloway even invited everyone up to his place to help clean it up, and so far only four kids have taken him up on it. Four. Out of about 300.
I get that teenagers are idiots. I myself once threw such a huge party when my mother was away, that all the carpets had to be replaced and even the telephone was stolen off the wall. Who steals a phone?! I still don't know. But I had to pay for a new one.
The only way teenagers learn to be productive members of society is by holding them accountable. That means paying for the damage, assisting with the clean up and how about some additional community service hours.
Interestingly, Holloway might also have some explaining to do. He's using his website to raise money for repairs but a report on TMZ says the house was already in foreclosure and in disrepair. Holloway reportedly admits there was some prior damage but insists the drunk teens really trashed his place.
Meanwhile, Holloway hasn't decided yet whether to press charges on the trespassers. If I was a teenager, I'd be trying to avoid a criminal record and doing everything I could to make things right. And instead of threatening Holloway, perhaps these parents should use their energy to make sure this is a learning opportunity for their kids. One that will certainly serve them well when they do go to college.