In My Opinion
Racism Isn't Born, It's Taught
I often just sit and watch and listen to my children. It brings me back to the simple times. They remind me of the person I should be.
A couple of days ago my youngest children were in the shower together. This is what I heard. My son said, "You are a black girl." My daughter said, "No, I am not. They have better hair." (He meant the black marks on her legs from black magic marker. She, I guess, took it as a person with “black” skin. I never actually asked what she meant because I thought nothing of it. That is the problem. We all make assumptions without having the courage to ask.
I also didn’t think anything of posting this on my Facebook brand page. Until I was told that this was inappropriate. I read it again and I kept trying to figure out what was “inappropriate.” I heard two children in the shower talking about what they noticed and what they felt. I didn’t have any other thoughts. I thought the misunderstanding was cute. I didn’t think an intervention was necessary and certainly didn’t think her comments were defaming in anyway.
I rarely get upset over the opinions of others, but these opinions were ones I wanted to address. Racism is a learned behavior. It is people’s perception that takes over their ability to reason. Racism is driven by hate and it is used to undermine someone’s value or beliefs.
When we hear our children speak from their hearts we should all listen to what they have to say. It is their “glasses” that the world should see from. They aren’t afraid to voice what they notice and they aren’t afraid to have open conversations about their experiences.
I ask that before you judge others you ask yourself one question - was that said or done with the intent to hurt? This wasn’t an incident of hate. It was a conversation between a 2 year old and 4 year old, and to think that is was perceived as anything other than that, is very sad.
Racism isn’t born, folks, it’s taught. I have a two- year-old son. You know what he hates? Naps! End of list. – Denis Leary