In My Opinion
Save Your Gown – And Your life – By Not Trashing Your Wedding Dress
When I got married in 2008, I never once considered hiring a photographer for a “trash the dress” photo session. I had seen images of brides destroying their just-worn wedding dresses on various blogs, and frankly, I thought they seemed tacky. Plus, I couldn’t understand why a bride would want to climb a tree, splash through puddles or roll around in the mud wearing a dress that cost hundreds or thousands of dollars. What a waste of money!
But a tragic story out of Canada offers a more somber reason why women may want to reconsider participating in “trash the dress” shoots. A young bride from Quebec recently drowned in her wedding gown after it became weighed down while posing in a lake during such a photo session. The thirty-year-old had wanted to “immortalize” her dress and have pictures taken of her having fun while wearing it.
Call me old fashioned, but when I think of having fun in a wedding gown, I think of exchanging vows and the first dance, not wading into a lake or floating in a river.
Maybe I just don’t understand the symbolism of destroying your wedding dress after becoming a Mrs. Is the gesture supposed to imply that you won’t need to wear it again because you will stay married to your new husband forever? Is it an act of protest against the high costs of today’s weddings or a rebellion against the institution of marriage? Wait, that wouldn’t make sense. Then why get married and spend the money to buy a white gown in the first place?
After my wedding, I had my gown professionally cleaned and preserved. It’s now packed in a box for posterity. Perhaps one day I’ll have a daughter who will want to wear it, although I would encourage her to find a dress that expresses her own style. Maybe I’ll slip it on for a vow renewal ceremony. Whatever the reason, at least I know it’s there, sitting safely in my closet.