In My Opinion
The Submissive Cinderella: My Take on 50 Shades of Grey
Is princess charming bought and not earned? Is it possible that Cinderella was a sex slave and not a domestic servant, is that what made her attractive to the prince, her prior resume included servitude? I am sure it wasn’t the dress or the shoes because men rarely notice those things. Perhaps it was that the prince could dress her up, adorn her with jewels, and move her into his castle. That castle still has shackles, right? It didn’t matter that she had her own dreams as long as she came with a price tag and handcuffs.
In one of this summer's hottest reads, the main character Ms. Steele’s pursuit of sexual satisfaction is so much more gratifying than the pursuit of one’s dreams. At her tender age, did she even have time to form her dreams? Is this the new Cinderella story?
Does the modern day woman get her panties in a twist over a bully? It appears there are 50 Shades of Grey and all of them are hovering over insanity.
Cinderella wasn’t a sex slave. She was, however, “saved” by a man. If we look back at our childhood, indeed all princesses were rescued. It is what we have been indoctrinated with. The modern fairy tale of “50 Shades Of Grey” is more demeaning than empowering because the horse is replaced with whips and chains.
This story is black and white, and it is abuse. It is the story of one woman who was built into something her husband could “own”. This isn’t about love, this relationship is about control.
The book depicts a man’s desire to possess “his woman” in all areas of her life. The possession is only made acceptable because the main character has substantial wealth. Is it okay to give someone their way if they have money? Did this “Anastasia” feel better when she wrapped herself in expensive garb? Did it redefine her self-esteem and assuage her guilt over bending who she was to exemplify her husband’s dark wishes? Yes, sex can be hot, but is stalking the person you love and telling them how to think and what to do hot?
Hot, is having someone who stands next to you and not over you. Hot, is loving someone for who they are, not what they will do for you. A relationship is founded on having the ability to communicate and having both parties' wishes respected. It is not hiding from, or lying to, or not doing things out of fear. The perfect relationship is one built on trust, not lust.
Would this be a modern fairy tale if the setting were instead a double-wide trailer with Bubba and his beer gut? How about if after they smashed beer cans on their heads, they frolic into a canal on a canoe after using the twine and logs for more than preparing firewood? Is that romantic? Ask yourself, isn’t the money and his good looks what makes you overlook the abuser he is? Is it how you feel about yourself that allows you to paint a picture that isn’t really there?
It is all about point of view. The point of view I have is clear by asking myself this question. “Do I want this person marrying my daughter?” Not for all the money in the world, because having a husband that adores you, not controls you, is priceless. The book "50 Shades of Grey" written by E. L. James was a fun read, but not a fairy tale or the modern love story.