Why Do Women Stand By the Anthony Weiners of the World?
Anthony Weiner is in hot water again. After his online sexual escapades got him fired from his congressional office in 2011, the New York City mayoral candidate is once again embroiled in a sex scandal.
An online news source recently revealed a series of explicit messages and pictures sent from Weiner to an unidentified 22-year-old woman and Weiner has confirmed that he sent some of these lewd messages as late as the summer of 2012.
He held a news conference yesterday, with his long suffering wife Huma Abedin by his side, during which he apologized for his inappropriate actions. This was especially interesting since she was notably absent the first time her husband had to face the press regarding a sex scandal.
While the extra marital affairs and compulsions of politicians are nothing new - what feels very raw and shocking, at least to me, is the fact that his wife Huma Abedin has been so adamant and vocal about her support of him.
“Our marriage has had its ups and its downs,” Abedin said standing next to Weiner. “It took a lot of work and a whole lot of therapy to get to the place where I can forgive Anthony. It was not an easy choice but I made the decision that it was worth staying in this marriage. It was a decision I made for me, my husband and our son.”
Abedin is a very private woman and quite honestly, she looked like she was in shock during the conference. These recently leaked texts were reckless and raunchy and personally I am bewildered by her decision to stand by him.
But Huma is part of a long line of disgraced politicians and wives who have chosen to stand by their men - Hillary Clinton has done the same and she is a close adviser to Abedin.
I have always told my husband that if I ever caught him cheating on me, that would be the end of our marriage. Marriage is a leap of blind faith and trust. Regardless of whatever temptations, fear, or perhaps boredom may arise, your partner should be honest enough with you to talk about his or her feelings rather than getting naked with another person.
But I also know this - kids are a game changer in every sense of the word. Decisions you make regarding your marriage aren’t as black and white once you factor your children into the equation. Your number one concern is how things will impact them. And perhaps this is why Abedin is choosing to stand by Weiner’s side yet again.
What would you do if you were in Abedin’s position?