Would You Call the Cops on Your Kids for an Underage Drinking Party?
Now this is a serious buzz kill.
A Connecticut couple came home and found their teen daughters hosting an illegal, underage drinking party at their home. Were they surprised? I'm sure. Did they yell? Probably. Did they call the police? Oh, yes they did.
The two girls, ages 15 and 16, now face charges of permitting a minor to possess alcohol.
That right there is some tough love parenting. A lot of parents would probably be bending over backwards to make sure their kids didn't get in trouble with the law. I gotta hand it to these parents; they know how to make an impact.
I'm not an attorney but I did throw a few parties in my day and I'm guessing at most, these girls will get this expunged from their records and face some community hours. You know, some time to think about why there might be a downside to throwing a raging party when your parents are out of town. (Now I'm thinking they probably aren't calling them "raging" parties anymore.)
I'm guessing these teens will learn a very important lesson about accountability. And of course, they will also be the bad-ass girls whose parents narced on them.
I do subscribe to the theory that kids need to face consequences or they never quite get it. Like my 9-year-old and her homework. That girl forgot some part of her homework every day. And I was the one owning the problem. I would be on the phone with other parents getting the assignment. I'd be on the computer trying to gain access to replacement math sheets. I once drove to school to pick up her forgotten books. I am a jackass in this scenario.
Then one day, I couldn't take it anymore. I said, “The next time you forget your homework, no TV. So check your backpack before you leave school”. The first day, she forgot it. I followed through on the threat. The second day? She remembered it all and hasn't forgotten it since. Consequences.
So if my daughter throws an amazing but highly illegal party someday, will I call the police? I don't know. That takes some serious chutzpah. I applaud the parents but I'm not sure I could do it. But I promise you this. I will make her pay for all the damage, do volunteer service to make amends and she will temporarily lose certain privileges. Because when kids get a free ride, they don't learn how the world really works.