Do Moms Lead Double Lives?

Could you lead a double life like Jennifer Love Hewitt’s character in The Client List?  What would it be? Would you be able to keep your other life a secret and deal with the conflicting sides of your personality? 

I say yes!  While you might not have a night job as a masseuse that performs  “extra” services or have to keep your other activities a secret, I do believe as moms we are all juggling double or even multiple lives.   Sometimes showing or concealing different parts of our personality to fit the situation.  What do you think?  Is there a side to you that no one knows?

If you see me at school drop-off in my black stretchy pants, food stained t-shirt, no make-up, ponytail chatting with the other parents, I’m a total mom.  Then there are days when I work outside of the house all dressed up with full hair and make-up and you may not even know I have kids.  I’m not just talking about appearances either.  Do you ever feel like a different person when you are at playgroup then when you are out with your husband or around people without kids?   

I was out with a few mom friends and someone mentioned, “You’re fun out!”  And I thought, “Aren’t I always fun?” She said, “I’ve never really hung out with you without kids.”  I thought “I guess your right, we haven’t”.  So when we’re with the kids it may be a different kind of fun.  It’s really all about them.  Then I have some friends that don’t have kids and have never even met mine.  They only know the carefree professional me, not the chasing around 2 kids sometimes frantic me. 

Either way these personalities are all a part of me.  I believe being a mom is definitely a part of who we are, but it doesn’t define everything we are. I think what this all means is to not judge.  You never know what someone may be going though or doing just by appearances.  Also, just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean that’s all you’re interested in and that all your other parts of your personality disappear.  I think it’s important to lead a double life,  but hopefully it won’t have to be a secret, it can just be part of who you are.