Moving is a Part of Life for a Military Family. There is no Way Around It.
And even if you are able to stay someplace for years and years, your friends will come and go. This can be a challenge for a lot of people. Kids have a hard time with saying goodbye to friends. Moms lose their support system and have to start all over again. It can be pretty frustrating.
I think it is important to remember that we will have to go through this but also important not to shut ourselves off from the world because we know we will have to say goodbye someday. Relationships and making friends is a big part of getting through Military struggles so it is pretty important to try to make friends wherever you might go. Even if you know that you will only be at a certain place for a year or less, it is still important to make friends.
For kids it may be a little harder. You want them to make friends but you worry about how hard it will be for them when it is time to say goodbye.
Especially since they don't understand like the adults do why friends have to move away. You can help your children through it by letting them write to their friends, let them talk about the good memories they had together and if possible make plans to visit the friends down the road. I think how you handle things will go along way to help them get through it.
Right now we plan to stay at our current duty station for quite some time. I will still have to say goodbye as friends come and go and that is going to be hard. But I will just remember that no matter where we go or how far apart we might be, true friendship lasts no matter how many miles might separate you.
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