Sex...It Just Gets Better and Better
*Warning: This is a post where I talk about sex. Should you be related to me or easily embarrassed by me, I would refrain from reading this. Otherwise, enjoy. And leave a comment.*
The other night I was out with a dear friend and over a few cocktails, as girls (at heart) often do, we started talking about sex.... It wasn't so much a discussion about the details (how, when, where said activity goes down), it was more about how important it is and how much we actually want to do it.
Despite her busy life with two kids, a full time career, and a husband that travels and MY busy life as a single mom with one kid (that feels like two), a full time career from home, and a serious boyfriend, she and I concurred that there is nothing more satisfying or important than maintaining an active and healthy sex life. In my world, there's no exhaustion too exhausted, no stressed out too stressed, or too late/too early too late or too early to deter me from doing it.
"I had sex on Thanksgiving!" I blurted out to my friend, "I mean, who does it on Thanksgiving?! I did!!!"
We both choked on our drinks laughing.
"That is a title of a post," she said, "So funny!"
"And so true...”
"Cheers to having sex and being completely stuffed!" She said clinking my glass.
One might suggest that it's the fact that I'm divorced (and happy) that lends itself to my "fun Jenny" persona, as both of those things are absolutely true. But I think there's one more thing that helps: AGE.
I asked some pals on Facebook whether sex is better than it was in their 20's, before or after marriage, before or after kids, or before or after divorce, and EVERYONE agreed: WAAAAAAAAAAAAY better after age of 30 and shockingly, better after kids! This from women AND men.
So maybe the whole too tired to do it thing really is a symptom of something else going on in a marriage, because it seems to be unanimous that sex is better as we age and mature. This sentiment was echoed by people that have been married for 20 years, and people like me that have been divorced for 2 or 3 years.
Marital status, kids, job pressures, etc. has little to do with the fact that as time goes on: We're DOING it better!! We KNOW the drill, we know what we like, we know what our partner likes AND we're not afraid to take risks. There are no rules and nothing’s off-limits. And there is certainly less room, or time (for busy folks like me) for insecurities.
Okay….Time to turn it over to you to divulge details of your sex life. Please.
Do you agree that sex get better with age? Is it hormones, confidence, or just plain self-awareness? Does marital status mean anything? Share your thoughts here!
*** Tune in to "7 Days of Sex", a new Lifetime show which challenges couples to have sex for one week straight with the hope of saving their marriage. Premieres Thursday, April 26 at 10/9c.