A Year of Change and Goodbyes: Life as a Military Spouse
When I agreed to move to Omaha with my then-fiancé, it was with the understanding that our time in Nebraska would be brief. That as soon as he could, he’d find a way for us to move back east, near my family and the big city lifestyle to which I was accustomed. Try as I may, I just don’t have a laid-back Midwestern spirit.
Seven years later – now married with a dog, a toddler son, and a house – we’re still in Omaha.
Thankfully, our time in Middle America hasn’t been awful as I had I feared, in part because of the awesome friends we’ve made. For the first couple of years we even had our own clique, a small group of other young married couples we met through the Jewish community. We also had my husband’s non-Jewish Air Force friends, many of whom said “I do” to their significant others within a year or so of our wedding.
Then, two years ago, on the day I planned to tell one of my close friends that I was pregnant, she announced that her family was moving overseas. (Interestingly, she and her husband belonged to both our military and non-military circle of friends.) A year later, a second close friend decided it was time for her family to leave Omaha, too. Her departure was particularly devastating as they were like family to us – and because I always anticipated that we would move first.
It’s so much harder to be the ones left behind.
Our clique had dissolved, but we still had our military friends. Although we saw them less often, it was comforting to know that they were around, and when we did hang out, we always had fun.
However, I recently learned that three of them are leaving (or hoping to leave) before the end of the year. There’s a mass exodus happening in Omaha, and once again, we’re being left behind.
I’m not ready for this year of change, this year of goodbyes. The number of close friends we have left in Omaha is dwindling, and they were the ones who made living here worthwhile. Their imminent departures make me all the more anxious to figure out our future plans. Sure, we can begin the daunting process of making new friends, but I’d rather start packing moving boxes, too.
Catch up on all of the of changes and goodbyes on this season of Army Wives, Sundays at 9/8c.