Get to Know Kolby and Victoria Koloff of "Preachers' Daughters"
All three families on Lifetime's provocative new family docuseries "Preachers' Daughters" have a unique storyline. One of the many things that make the Koloffs stand out is the fact that both parents are preachers. Read this interview with mom Victoria and daughter Kolby Koloff to find out where they stand on prayer vs. discipline, balancing school friends and church friends, and more.
Q: Do you think you will have a similar parenting style to your mom and dad when you have kids?
A: I do think I will parent my own kids like my parents have parented me when it comes to church and things like that, but I'm not sure if I will be as strict as they sometimes can be. I can say that I definitely won't be making my daughter or son's first girlfriend/boyfriend sign an application just to take them on a date! But, then again, my mom always says, "Don't judge me until you're a mommy yourself!"
Q: Do people treat you differently because both of your parents are preachers? Do you feel that you rebel more or less because of who they are?
A: I would say yes, people look at me differently knowing I'm a preachers' daughter. They expect me to be immune from temptation and to stand out from the crowd, which I think I do pretty well, I hope! I know some preachers' kids that have rebelled a lot more than I ever have. I don't think I've given my parents too much trouble!
Q: Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
A: In 10 years I hope to be doing what I love, which is designing my own clothing line where a portion of the profits goes toward the kids in Haiti and other causes I believe in. I also hope I will be close to starting a family in 10 years. I love how big my family is, and I want the same thing for me and my future husband. I hope to be living as close as possible to my family, even in the same town, whether it is Nashville or somewhere else. I couldn't imagine not living close to all of my family! I want my kids to grow up with their cousins.
Q: Is it hard to find a balance between your church friends and your school friends?
A: Most of my church and school friends are the same. Everyone jokes about how we live in the Bible Belt of America, and it's kind of true. Most people in my small town go to church, and it's pretty cool. Of course, I have friends who don't go to church or share the same beliefs as I do, but I'm kind to them and show them the love that God has shown me. For the most part, though, I have surrounded myself with a great group of friends who don't subject me to peer pressure or try to get me to go against my morals and beliefs. I think it's very important who you hang around with. My parents always say, "The people you hang around the most will influence the type of person you will become."
Q: What advice would you give to other parents of teenage daughters?
A: 1) The number one piece of advice to parents of teenage daughters is to have excellent communication. That's why it's so important to begin when our children are young. If good communication hasn't been established long before our daughters are teenagers, it's going to be much more difficult when they reach adolescence.
2) Listen to them and let them be heard.
3) Work on responding and not reacting. (I work hard on this every day!)
4) Don't take things so personally! Give your children permission to hate you (because they don't ever really hate you!). That was the best thing I ever did for them and for me!
Q: What were you like when you were your daughter's age?
A: I was married at Kolby's age. That's probably why I get a little crazy making sure she doesn't make the same mistakes I did! And, so far, I'm happy to say that none of my daughters have.
Q: Do you have any vices?
A: Potato chips, Ms. Pac-Man, Reese's Peanut Butter Cups.
Q: What's one of the biggest parenting mistakes you have made?
A: Not listening. Making the wrong assumptions that because I did certain things when I was their age, they're going to make the same mistakes. I thank God that my girls are more intelligent than I ever was at their age.
Q: Is there ever a time when prayer can replace discipline?
A: Prayer is powerful. There have been times when I knew something was going on with one of the girls, but she didn't know I knew. I made the decision that instead of confronting whichever one of them it was, I would take it to God. Soon after, without fail, that particular daughter would come to me and confess whatever it was she thought I should know. We end up talking about it, praying about it, asking and accepting forgiveness, and moving on. So, I believe my answer would be "yes."