My Mom Is a Sex Educator! Here’s How I Feel About It.

Kolby Koloff’s mother, Victoria, is a Christian preacher who hosts a faith-based radio show and is the director of two pregnancy centers. She carries a no-nonsense approach to talking to teens, including Kolby and her friends, about sex. This could be a recipe for disaster for a a fun-loving, curious 16-year-old ready to start dating, but Kolby offers some insight as to why it isn’t as bad as it seems.

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Q: Your mom is a sex educator – has that had an impact on some of the choices you have made regarding sex?

A: I think that my mom’s job has made me more cautious about the way I view sex outside of marriage. Do I think that her job has persuaded my opinions on sex before marriage? Yes. However, I know that I am responsible for my own actions, and I don’t think that if she had a regular job that I would be out having sex. The work she does has helped me to not fall into the temptations teenagers face, and I’m so grateful for that.

Q: Are you ever embarrassed by her openness about sex? Have your friends ever teased you about it?

A: Sometimes my mom can be a little much. But I think once you give a pregnancy test to a 10-year-old, you realize that teenagers need to hear the truth, no matter how graphic it may be! That doesn’t mean that sometimes I don’t get a little embarrassed, because I do! Who wouldn’t be embarrassed by their mom teaching about sex? A few of my friends have called my mom “the sex lady,” which is kind of embarrassing, but I handle it pretty well!

Q: Not only is she a sex educator, but she’s a preacher too. A double whammy! Are you afraid this might scare potential boyfriends off?

A: If my mom’s occupation scares guys off, then I know they weren’t worth it anyway! If he likes me enough, he will endure whatever hardships may occur!

Q: Are you more or less inclined to ask her for advice about sex or to have her answer questions you have about sex?

A: I’m definitely more inclined to ask my mom for advice and answers about sex. That’s one of the reasons I do love her job. She’s made it so I don’t have to feel awkward if I want to ask about something. We have a very open relationship, and I love it.   

Q: What advice would you give to other teens with a parent who preaches about sex?

A: I would tell them to just push through the embarrassment. They really are making a difference, even if it just seems like they’re trying to embarrass us. I’m so proud of my mom and the work that she does. I’ve heard a lot of people say how thankful and lucky they were to hear her speak and to be able to talk to her about issues or questions they have.

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Watch new episodes of Lifetime’s family docuseries “Preachers' Daughters” on Tuesdays at 10/9c.