The Pros of Being a Military Spouse
A fellow military wife and I were recently chatting on Twitter about the pros of being a milspouse. Granted, her perspective is a little bit different than mine because her husband has never been deployed (and I’m not sure he ever will be), but she brought up some interesting points. I’m not sure I’d consider all of her “pros” to be worthwhile perks of being a military spouse, but I tend to have a “glass half empty” view on the subject.
Several pros she mentioned that I was sort of “meh” about included: attending the annual ball; using base facilities like the commissary, exchange (a Walmart-type store), and fitness center; seeing her man in uniform every day; and getting to live in unexpected (and sometimes interesting) locations.
However, there were two pros she listed that really stuck out in my mind. First, she said that the biggest pro of being a military spouse is that her husband loves his job and feel as though he has a purpose. I want my husband to be happy and enjoy his 9-5 workday as much as the next supportive wife, and I understand the importance of feeling fulfilled with one’s work. However, I’m not sure I see how my husband loving his job directly benefits me as a military wife.
Plus, I know many military spouses, myself included, who have been unable to find jobs of their own that give them a similar sense of purpose. This usually has to do how frequently they relocate and the random places where they end up living. We all want our husbands to love their jobs, but shouldn’t we, the wives, love our jobs too?
My Twitter friend also added that community is another pro of being a milspouse, and I do agree with her on that. Nobody can really understand what it’s like to go through a deployment besides another military wife. And although I’m not particular close with many of the wives in my husband’s squadron (partly because we don’t live nearby and partly because we don’t share other interests), I have a handful of very good friends that I met through his military connections, women I would not have otherwise had the opportunity to know.
Now you tell me: What other pros are there to being a military spouse? How do you feel about the pros I mentioned?