Victoria Koloff Talks to Her Daughters About Sex…A Lot. Find Out Why!
Victoria Koloff of “Preachers’ Daughters” is a Christian preacher who hosts a faith-based radio show and is the director of two pregnancy centers. She carries a no-nonsense approach to talking to teens, including all four of her daughters, about sex. Find out why her no-holds-barred approach to parenting works so well.
Q: Do you think you are harder on your daughters about sex because you are a sex educator?
A: First of all, I don't think I'm harder on them. I would say we definitely discuss sex more openly because I'm a sex educator. I'm more open with them about sex, life and many things because I never experienced open communication with my own parents. We didn't talk about anything. As a director of two pregnancy centers, I'm faced every day with young women who are devastated by unplanned pregnancies, STDs, who are post-abortive, [with] the feeling that their reputations are ruined and the low self-worth they feel from a decision to engage in sex outside of marriage. So, I would have to say my work and my past are more to blame for the way I choose to communicate and raise my daughters. I have amazing daughters, so I think I must be doing something right!
Q: Are you ever afraid that as a result of talking so much about sex, your girls may actually rebel and experiment more?
A: No, absolutely not. I don't think we can ever talk too much about a subject as serious as sex with our children (age-appropriately, of course). Look, this is not the topic of every conversation the girls and I have, but the girls and I are very comfortable in the fact that there's not much we can't talk about openly. And I think that's something to celebrate, not despise.
Q: You got pregnant at an early age. Does part of what drives you to educate about sex stem from this history?
A: No, not really. Although I did have my first child, Teryn (now 30), at the very young age of 18, I had already been married for two years. So, I would probably say getting married at 16 is more of the reason why I am the way I am when it comes to educating my girls about sex, boys, life and other important things. Because the truth is, I wasn't pregnant when I got married at 16; I was just very naive and stupid!
Q: Are you suspicious of all men when it comes to your daughters' potential boyfriends?
A: I wouldn't say "suspicious"; I would say cautious! And if that makes me "unpopular" with their potential boyfriends, in my opinion, then [those guys] aren't good enough for my girls! And that's all I'm gonna say about that!