Weighing In…(My "Dance Moms: Miami" Episode 5 Recap)
I think the theme of survival is really fitting in dance. There are always people trying to beat you and it’s survival of the fittest. Work hard and keep moving or don't …and be eaten alive. That is what dance is all about.
The weigh-in did not bother me. I love the scale because it pushes Jessi to keep herself fit. I am diabetic and every day I have to suffer the effects of my unhealthy habits from when I was younger. It is not an easy disease to cope with and I don't want my daughter to suffer the same fate. She was really heavy before she started dancing and thanks to that scale and the support of Victor and Angel she lost the weight and because of that, she is who she is today. Being overweight is the kiss of death in the dancing world - judges are not forgiving and they expect dancers to look a certain way. There are weight limits in the military and in professional dancing companies - it is a fact of life. My daughter chose to be a dancer and she needs to look the part, that is the bottom line. I totally believe that Abby overreacted to the scale, but I don't know what history is there. Abby’s reaction alone made all the dancers uncomfortable, not the scale itself.
This week Jessi was back at the top and had a solo, Fallen Angel. I didn't like it at first because I thought it had no substance. While it was a beautiful artistic piece, it did not have enough technique for the judges to critique and score.
It bothers me when they say I don't know dance at all, even though I was raised in a dance family. I have seen dance all my life. My mother danced professionally and she used to take me to her job which consisted of eight hours a day of dance. My sister was a competitive dancer and I danced too. I have gone to thousands of competitions and conventions, I listened to every critique from the judges so I know what wows them and what they look for. While I may not be a dance teacher I can talk with authority about the topic. And in the end…Jessi’s solo was amazing. Victor might have made fun of me by saying I didn't know what I was talking about, but the reality is that after my talk with him, he did add the turning sequence (which was beautiful) and the leg extensions which Jessi is known for.
I think sometimes the coaches joke around a little too much and the kids seem to think its okay to disrespect their mothers. We give love unconditionally and give them opportunities that we as children didn't get and we also make many sacrifices for them so they can dance. While I understand the coaches have a job to do, they do need to be a little more respectful to the moms because without the moms there would be no children registered in dance. I love them but they need to work on that a little bit.
Jessi is loyal to her dance dads, Victor and Angel and she spends more time with them than she ever does with us. She will never leave her studio, that is something she made very clear and I respect her position. I know she felt bad for some of the things she said and her attitude towards me has changed since then. She is more grateful for all the sacrifices her family is making so that she can dance.
"Dance Moms: Miami" airs Tuesdays at 10/9c on Lifetime.