Is “Fifty Shades of Grey” Making You Depressed About Your Sex Life?
Despite the buzz surrounding “Fifty Shades of Grey,” I haven’t read the best-selling book yet—and I’m not sure I will. It isn’t because I’m prude or uncomfortable with the romance novel’s erotic tale (I’ve heard that there are more than a handful of blush-worthy scenes). It’s because a friend recently warned me that reading the “mommy porn” series has left her less hot and bothered and more plain old bothered. In short, “Fifty Shades of Grey” left her feeling sad, not seductive.
The dominant-submissive relationship between Ana and Christian Grey has many women fanning themselves and fantasizing about having a similar affair (either with or without their husbands). But the steamy relations between the pair of lovers didn’t get my friend horny as much as it got her nostalgic for her 20s. She might not have been into S&M like the book’s protagonist, but my friend’s sex life was apparently more passionate pre-baby—heck, even pre-marriage--than it is now.
But you don’t necessarily have to have read “Fifty Shades of Grey” to long for the days of sizzling sex. Without having opened the book, I can commiserate with my friend’s nostalgia, and so can many of my other mommy friends. Several of them have recently confessed to sex lives that have gone stale over the years. With the stress of work, motherhood and a never-ending to-do list, we mommies don’t have the energy to have crazy twenty-something sex anymore. Instead, we look forward to actually sleeping in our beds rather than “sleeping” with our mates.
Tell me, did “Fifty Shades of Grey” make you wish your love life was a little bit more like Ana’s – or at least more like it was in your 20s? Or are you having the same hot sex that you had before the responsibility of juggling marriage, kids and a career?