8 Reasons Why Married Sex Rocks!
I’ve been married for 13 years, which means I've technically been having sex with the same person for 13 years (if my mother is reading this I was a virgin before I got married). And while popular culture portrays married sex as perfunctory, stale and usually in the missionary position with a wife who often just rolls over to take one for the team--as a married lady I beg to differ.
Married sex with someone you love, someone you have committed yourself to legally, morally, spiritually and physically is unlike any other kind of sexual relationship. Sex with your spouse binds you in ways that are hard to articulate. It’s a product of your devotion to one another and the knowledge that with this person you are safe and loved unconditionally. Sex with someone with whom you've created a home, shared in the raising of kids, paid the bills, and with someone who you can rouse at one am in the morning when you can’t sleep because your mind is racing with a myriad of thoughts is soothing. Sex with your spouse; this person you posed next to in your wedding picture beaming and flush with uncertainty of how it would all unfold and fast forward 13 years later and you're both still standing, clasping hands at the most insignificant moments just because you can- is like magic. Ultimately sex with your spouse- in whose eyes you see the best parts of yourself and this tiny piece of the world you've carved out - well it's like coming home.
But I'm not the only married lady who thinks married sex rocks, in fact these married moms had this to say about why married sex is best!
#1 Kadi Cobb Prescott Best part of married sex: being comfortable enough to try anything is, in my opinion, the best part! Oh...and not having to worry of he will ever call you again afterwards.
#2 Angela England Best part of married sex: the complete honesty that is only possible with the level of commitment that comes from those marriage vows.
#3 Rajean Campbell Blomquist Married sex rocks: Because one night stands are so overrated.
#4 Leah Segedie Married sex rocks: Because if you accidentally fart during sex he will still be there to make you eggs and coffee in the morning.
#5 HaDassah Sabo Milner Best part of married sex: no guilt.
#6 Shoshana Martyniak Married sex rocks: Because you can sext and be pretty certain he isn't going to show his best friend your boobs.
#7 Randi Chapnik Myers Married sex rocks: Because the longer you're with one person, the more you want to experiment to keep it spicy
#8 Lani Horn Married sex rocks: I am going on 19 years, and I am glad to say there is still chemistry. Even in the slog of everyday life & with all my body has been through, we can find it. And I am truly grateful. There is something about knowing somebody's buttons and just how to push them... It's a great thing.
Still not convinced? Even Gail Saltz M.D., Associate Professor of psychiatry, The New York Presbyterian Hospital and Author of "The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Makes for a Better Life" agrees that married sex rocks indeed!
"This is because even though the newness may wear off, the comfort in pushing the envelope grows, such that marrieds are more willing to try new stuff, get a little messy and make a few mistakes all in the services of getting off together,” notes Dr. Saltz. “Also, marrieds know what they like and what their partner likes, so there is a certain reliability in the sex. After years you don't have to always be told "faster, slower, to the right" and that leaves more room for concentrating on your partner and for enjoying some fantasy cause you need not angst over whether he will be able to get it right."
So, do you agree, does married sex rock?