Making Time For Romance: Surprise Him With A Weekend Getaway
My fiance' and I aren't married just yet, but we have two children between us so honestly, it can sometimes be hard to find time for romance. Our world centers around work and kids, and he and I take whatever is left over for ourselves. If I'm being totally honest - both of us have had one failed marriage and I'm always hyper-sensitive about how much work needs to go into a relationship to make it a happy one. Our time together is essential, so this year for Morgan's birthday, I decided to do something that he would never expect - a weekend getaway.
I planned to lure him away to the Terranea Resort under the guise of seeing if it could be a potential wedding reception location for us. I scheduled an appointment for us and he agreed to take the afternoon off of work. I secretly packed a bag for both of us and while he was giving our son a bath I ran out to the car in my pajamas and literally threw our bags in the car. I slipped back in the door with 30 seconds to spare. I can't believe he didn't notice how guilty I looked!
The next day we drove up to Terranea where we met with the wedding coordinator. My fiance' kept gushing over how amazing the resort was and how he couldn't imagine having our reception anywhere else. He was wandering around, taking photos of the spectacular ocean views on his iPhone, and texting them to his family with things like "can you believe this place"? I was so nervous at this point that I thought I might throw up - I'm a terrible secret keeper and this surprise was killing me!
Eventually I convinced him to stop taking photos of the succlents in the lobby so that we could drive back in time to beat the rush hour traffic. Of course we weren't going anywhere - I just wanted to tell him what was happening already! We walked out to the car and got in. He was putting the key in the ignition when I said "I SO wish we could just stay here tonight" to which he replied with a joking "no kidding. Can't this be my birthday surprise?" To which I said - "Yes! Let's stay".
He snorted out loud. "No."
I met his eyes. "No, seriously. Let's stay."
He looked at me like I was crazy (I am somewhat known for my spur-of-the-moment big ideas. He thought this was one of those moments). "C'mon we can't do that. Maybe another time."
I insisted. "No, tonight. Let's do it!"
He started to protest again and I said "Well then if we don't stay who is going to stay in the room that I booked for tonight?"
I seriously thought he was going to burst with excitement. When I told him that I had packed a bag for him he jumped out of the car and ran around to the trunk to see for himself. I felt quite proud of myself.
After our check-in at the resort (which involved Champagne, hallelujah!) we wandered over to watch the sunset over the ocean. We had a few appetizers at Nelsons, the casual restaurant on property and sitting there, listening to the ocean I felt so relaxed that I thought I might melt. I couldn't melt just yet though - I had made reservations at Catalina Kitchen for his birthday. What he didn't know was that his brother and sister-in-law (who we are extremely close to but don't see nearly often enough) had driven down from Los Angeles to meet us for dinner. He was beyond surprised, and very excited to see them there waiting for us. He kept thanking me and telling me no one had ever done anything so nice for him. We had a 3 hour dinner with them - we literally shut the place down.
I am a surprise ninja. Hi-ya! (Or whatever ninjas say.)
The next morning at breakfast I surprised him again - we didn't have to leave just yet - we were spending the day at the spa at Terranea - an incredible spa with it's own co-ed pool, a cafe with fun bento lunches, and separate saunas, steam rooms, jacuzzis, and cold plunges for men and women. Did I mention all of this comes with a breathtaking ocean view? We had an amazing couples massage, another glass of champagne, and sat in a warm room in matching bathrobes listening to the waves crash against the bluff through the open doors. Honestly, it doesn't get much more romantic than that.
Is this trip starting to sound like it was for me? I swear it was planned for him. It's just that we like the same stuff. You know, or something. OK fine. I didn't hate the fact that I was his +1 on his birthday weekend.
My goal was to keep our flame burning brightly and I really think I did just that with this little trip. I was so proud of myself for planning it all and pulling it off. I'm notorious for my procrastination and so a grocery store card and take-out food from his favorite Chinese restaurant was probably all that he expected for his birthday. I'm positive that it is not just what we did, but the fact that I put a lot of work into it that means the most to him.
And for the record? We fell in love with the place and are indeed planning on having our wedding reception there. We have such great memories of our time there so it makes it even cooler that we get to watch that same sunset with our friends and family on our wedding day. I can't wait.
When is the last time that you surprised your significant other? I have to top this birthday trip now - so please share your ideas with me in the comments - I need your help!