New Poll Says Moms Are Angry At Do-Nothing Dads. Sound Familiar?
I couldn't help but shake my head at a report on CNN citing a new poll on how angry wives are over their husbands' gross inability to help around the house and act like true parenting partners.
Ahhh, the memories.
I totally remember the pre-divorce days when I was cooking with two children under my legs, making an repair appointment, checking homework and probably doing one other thing while he sat there on the computer doing so-called "work" which strangely resembled Solitaire.
Its no wonder:
46% of moms get angry with their husbands once a week or more
31% of moms say their husbands don't he'll with chores--in fact, they generate more.
50% of moms say their husbands get more time for themselves
Many moms--44 percent--- are upset that Dads don't notice what needs to be done around the house or with the kids (it jumps to 54 percent for moms with 3 or more children)
40% of moms are mad that Dads can't multitask. And the more kids they have, the madder they are.
Quite honestly, I don't believe men are completely incapable of multi-tasking, I think men are all in some secret collusion to keep low expectations by doing nothing.
Have you ever noticed that anytime a wife raves about her superstar husband who does everything and is extremely helpful, this husband gets death stares from the other men around as if he broke the man code and is about to face some serious consequences at the next secret meeting?
Meanwhile women are stressed that they don't have help and some said they only feel better when they stop actually expecting help from their spouse!!! Er, what's the point of being married then?
That kind of anger can simmer or explode, but either way it ain't good.
Which brings me to one unspoken benefit of divorce. You are actually alone so it doesn't frustrate you to feel alone as opposed to watching a fairly useless human standby while you spin into orbit doing fifteen things while they watch sports.
When people ask me about divorce I often say, I felt like a single parent through most of my marriage anyway, so it wasn't that much of a tough transition.
Sad part is, clearly thousands of women feel the same way. Are you one of them too?