Single or Divorced: Is there a Difference?
Last week at a doctor's visit, after running through a series of health related questions, the doctor looked at my chart and said, "Okay... let's see... Married?"
"No," I replied.
"Yes.... Well, not technically... I'm in a relationship..."
Wait, is he setting up my Facebook profile? Is he going to ask if 'it's complicated?' What does my relationship status have to do with what I think is an exploding gall bladder?! This is weird.
Or is it? Maybe my divorced/dating life has EVERYTHING to do with my aching body.
In an article for The Case for Marriage: Why Married People are Happier, Healthier, it says married people live longer than single people:
"Single women have mortality rates that are 50% higher than married women (Ross et all, 1990). Having a spouse can decrease your risk for dying from cancer as much as knocking ten years off your life. Single people spend longer in the hospital, and have a greater risk of dying after surgery (Goodwin et al, 1987)."
So you're telling me because I'm not married what could be a simple outpatient procedure could turn into a full blown hospital stay, or worse, death?! Aaaaaaand CUE my recurrent hypochondria.
From school and financial aid applications, to online dating profiles, where I stand on the relationship spectrum seems to be coming up a lot in recent months. I understand when it comes to financials... certainly, (in my case) there is a big distinction between married, single, and divorced.
But what about online dating? Divorced, single, what's the difference? Why are there two boxes? Unless I'm signing up for Ashley Madison, isn't it safe for gentleman suitors to assume that I'm on this site because I am single?! Without writing an inappropriate amount of details about my life- where I've been, where I am, and why I'm here (on the site, not on earth, that is), I'm not quite sure what me being divorced tells a complete stranger except that yes, I'm divorced, and oh, I'm single. Is a box checked "divorced" supposed to send a red flag warning to men: "this chick is damaged goods and comes with not the kind of baggage you can carry on?" (Sweetheart, if you're reading this, don't answer that).
But back to my doctor's visit... I'm still not sure why he asked about my relationship status and I'm still trying to figure out what's going on health wise. For everyone's sake though, I just hope it turns out to be bad gas.
Newly dating, single, or divorced, what box do you check on questionnaires?