When Your Husband’s Career Crashes & Burns. Lessons from Lamar & Khloe
I am not a Kardashian fan. But I could somewhat tolerate Lamar Odom. He seemed like a good guy (outside of getting involved with that family) and I definitely thought Lamar and Khloe had a better grip on the realities of marriage than any of her sisters. And I admired Khloe for sticking by her man and moving to Dallas to support him, unlike her bratty sister Kim who cried over the thought of Minnesota. News alert: Basketball players can be traded at any time.
So it was pretty sad to learn that Lamar was released from the Dallas Mavericks and will be on the inactive list for the rest of the season. He’s had a tough time of late, with his young cousin being killed by gunfire and then he was a passenger in a car that was in a fatal accident.
According to reports, Lamar just couldn’t put his heart and soul into playing for Dallas—still longing for his beloved Los Angeles and the Lakers. I guess a multi-million dollar paycheck is not enough inspiration!
Now on to me. Several years ago, I packed up my life and walked away from my career to move to London in support of my man. I gave it my best shot, having had lived and worked there previously, but with my husband’s psycho ex-girlfriend constantly threatening me and my child and an unfixable monster in-law situation, it was time to come back to the U.S.
At that point, my husband packed up his life and left his family in London and came to the U.S.
This is where things didn’t go as planned.
He really struggled to fit in to New York and the “American way” of doing things, he couldn’t find “his heart” in his work and he was frustrated all the time. Not so fun to live with.
I tried to be very supportive at least for the first year of him “trying to find his feet” and me carrying the financial burden, but after a while I do believe that it is time for DWI—Deal With It or Suck it Up mode. At the end of the day, especially when you have children and a mortgage, you may have to do work that doesn’t fulfill you on a metaphysical level (find another outlet) or fake your enthusiasm at work and just perform! People have been doing this for years.
Unfortunately, the reality of life is that we won’t all be skipping with glee and joy in our hearts to work everyday –and we may have to be separated from our relatives or sacrifice our personal fulfillment for a greater goal, like feeding your children. Or we may just have to just suck it up and honor a contract or work commitment until we figure out a better plan.
My husband didn’t get this. His work situation became a major issue in our now dissolved marriage.
Lamar Odom, with all his charm, couldn’t chalk up enough DWI to get his job done regardless of his emotional and personal feelings about Dallas. Those fans were counting on him. That team invested in him.
Luckily, they have millions of dollars to fall back on. I did not.
Ladies, before you pack up your life to join your man on an adventure he really in his heart of hearts doesn’t want to do, make sure he’s got enough DWI power for the trip.
Has this ever happened to you? What lessons do you find in this latest turn for Khloe & Lamar?
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