Why I Don't Cuddle After Sex
Lately, I’ve been taking a lot of heat from the man in my life because I am not a fan of prolonged post-coital cuddling.
I’m sorry but I don’t want to be caught up in your man parts, pressed against your hairy chest, or laying with my legs uncomfortably intertwined in yours like some sick naked Twister game gone awry. I don’t want to be in point blank range when you inevitably begin to snore. I want to effen sleep.
Now when I’m “in the ring” I am up close and personal. I give as good (often even better) than I get.
I will even give you some solid post-orgasm cuddling time and conversation. No problem.
But when it is actually time to go to sleep, please roll over to your side and leave me the hell alone.
What? Am I wrong here??
At the end of the day, I am a mother. Yes, perhaps a hot and sexy one (LOL!) but when mama needs to sleep, mama needs to sleep. I have spent many years with small people of various sizes sucking on me, clinging to me or otherwise attached to me. When I am not tethered to my kids, I would like to sleep un-entangled, thank you very much.
And I can’t help but feel that his resistance is more about his ego. Men have been anti-cuddling for years, and women have complained to no avail that they step up the post-sex affection. But we gave up. And started enjoying the restful sleep. We learned that not cuddling after sex is not an indication of how the man feels about the sex or feels about us, and we have de-cuddled ourselves and liberated ourselves to more restful slumber.
I have no intention of turning back. Apparently, researchers are starting to study more post-coital behaviors. "The vast majority of the research on the evolutionary psychology of human reproduction focuses on what's before and leading up to sexual intercourse," says Susan Hughes, associate professor of psychology at Albright College in Reading, Pa. who recently co-authored a study on sleep vs. cuddling after sex. "But reproductive strategies don't end with intercourse; they may influence specific behaviors directly following sex."
Well, I don’t know how strategic I am, Professor Hughes. Seriously, I just want to sleep.
Ladies, are you with me?
Are you pro post-cuddling or restful sleep? Where does your man stand on this?
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