Yes, Baby, I STILL Do! Six Reasons to Renew Your Vows
I can tell you exactly the minute I fell in love with my husband.
It was our first date, a blind date, and I had just finished yelling at him for being late. But, no…that’s not exactly when I first fell in love with him. It was a few minutes after, when we had made our way to the bar and he had ordered our drinks.
The light from the bar was a soothing, soft color and as he turned around to hand me my drink, I looked into his eyes for the first time. The way the light reflected off his incredibly beautiful green eyes, the gentleness in his stare…I can’t describe it really, except that at that very moment I was forever captured.
Falling in love with him felt like a sudden strong tug at my heart. It was like fear and happiness all in one. Never in all my life have I felt that way. Till this day, and it’s been 9 years, I so love that man.
Our wedding, as much as we planned it, was not at all reflective of the excitement in spending our lives together. The setting was gorgeous – on a beach, tropical island, perfect weather – but this location wedding was riddled with bad wedding planners, family overload, unwelcomed guests, and even having money that we had wired to family to pay vendors being stolen forcing us to repay for things when we were surprised with bills when we got there. On our honeymoon we were hit with such a severe virus we didn’t enjoy any of it. I remember thinking, “I just want to go home.”
It was awful and when I think about the moment we fell and love and our wedding, it does not compare.
So we are thinking about renewing our vows on our 10-year anniversary.
But you don’t have to have a nightmare wedding to feel inspired in renewing your vows with your honey. As a matter of fact, just this past Valentine’s Day hundreds of people from all over the tri-state area and beyond come out to Times Square to tell their love story and renew their vows. We didn’t make it this year, I am sad to say, but seeing the images of all those lovers coming together in honor of their commitment and love for one another really inspired us to continue in our plans.
There are some serious bonuses in renewing your vows:
This time, it’s the wedding you really wanted – Our wedding was flooded with people neither of us really knew or cared for courtesy of family who insisted we invite this one or that one out of courtesy. This time, only those who we really care about and are truly significant in our lives will be there, like a private party only a select few can attend.
We’ve had years and years to plan making it truly perfect.
No need to spend tons of money! The fact that it is really a big ‘ol party, we can spend as much or as little as we want. No pressure at all to provide the many details often required at formal wedding receptions.
You get to do your own hair and make-up, or not at all – I had a last minute cancelation on my hair and make-up stylist and the person who did both was so awful, despite my giving her an image of what I wanted it looked nothing like what I wanted and my face was more made up than a clown’s.
This time, the most important people in our lives will actually get to attend – our children. We are committed being symbols of true love for our children. Having them be a part of the planning and ceremony itself is the best part of all.
You can go completely nuts with it! I had all these aspirations for my first wedding: I wanted to jump into the ocean with my wedding dress. I wanted all of my guests to walk barefoot in the sand. The list goes on and on. But there were so many hands involved in the planning process that my want list kept getting shorter and shorter. This time, we’re going nuts!
In general, you would hope that your first wedding would be all the wonderful mentioned above, but it is rarely the case.
If I had to do the first wedding all over again, I would ignore the pressure from everyone, elope and just have a big party afterwards. But alas, it wasn’t meant to be.
This time, it’s going to be a bucket full of awesome. I can’t wait to say, “Yes, Baby, I do!” again!