Can You Have Too Many Mom Friends?
It wasn’t too long ago that I didn’t have ANY mom friends. I was a pregnant working mom expecting her first child. For the first few months I was just trying to not throw up, then I was busy trying to keep it all together taking care of my body, my baby and my career. I didn’t have a support group, I just had a few baby books and the internet.
Then after I had my baby that all changed. I was now part of “The Club”. I left my full-time job and discovered the world of playgroups. It was an adjustment at first. I went from career woman to milk machine. I went from researching stories as a reporter to researching everything for baby. I met other new moms and all we talked about were our babies. It was a special time, we were all going through the challenges of first time motherhood together.
Less than 2 years later I had my 2nd baby, and I joined more playgroups and met more moms. This time it was different, I didn’t have as much time as I did when I only had one child and one set of needs. It was hard to get that same “first time” mom bonding experience again.
Then when my kids started pre-school I met even more moms. Then they started a few activities and I met even more moms.
So now I have a lot of mom friends, but not enough time. Not enough time to get to know all of them, not enough time to hang out one on one and now that I’m working more, not enough time to have a lot of play dates. As our kids get older and our schedules get busier it’s hard to have a close relationship with everyone and it makes me feel shallow sometimes. I miss that time. I am still friends with some of the moms from my first playgroup, but many of us drifted apart too. With more kids, different schedules, and some going back to work it just isn’t the same.
So I guess you can have too many mom friends, but the important thing is to spend quality time with those you have bonded with and be okay with your shifting priorities.