Dear Miley Cyrus, You've Never Had "Magical" Sex!
Let me start off by saying that a) Your fiancé is HOT. Congrats. b) Your ring is SICK. Double congrats. And c) I have been seen pulling out of thepreschool lot, rocking out to "Party in the U.S.A.". LOVE. IT. All in all, you seem to be a pretty cool 19 year old... However, that's why I'm writing to you.... Because you are 19. Young. Very young. And recently you've made a few remarks that not only make you sound every ounce of "teen" but need to be addressed…
In a recent sit down with Amanda DeCadenet on Lifetime TV's "The Conversation" you opened up about sex....
"The girls that really base how much they're worth on the sexual favors they can do for somebody, that makes me really sad. Because sex is actually really beautiful. It's the only way we create, and it's the only way the world keeps going... So it’s ignorant not to talk to your kids about it or [not] make it seem as magical or cool as it actually is. [Kids] have a TV, so they know what sex is. So educate them and let them know … it’s a beautiful thing, and it is magic, and it’s when you connect with somebody. And it isn’t how much you’re worth. Your worth isn’t based on that, your worth is based on how you feel about yourself."
Let me first applaud you for encouraging parents to talk to their children about sex. I agree. It's never early, really. And it's also important that young women understand that they can't base their self worth or esteem on what they're "doing" (or not doing) for men in the boudoir. So high five on this. We're on the same page, me and you. Bra-vo.
However, Miss Cyrus, there is something you said that made me laugh out loud. Made me pause. Made me want to hug you and tell you that you have so many years ahead of you and with all due respect, you have NO idea what you're talking about... and what you're in for.
Miley, you said sex is "magical..." that it's "magic" (when you connect with somebody." Here's the thing, darlin', I can ASSURE you, that at 19, there is NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING magical about sex. I don't care how HOT your man is, how advanced you are, or how sexually educated you are.
Scientifically, your brain is not even fully formed until the age of 25. Emotionally, most women don't really become "who they are" until the age of 30. Combine these forces, and baby, you got a WAAAAAAAAAAYS to go until you are having "the best sex of your life." I promise you, one day, you will have that sex. So PLEASE, for the love of god, do NOT tell young girls how magical it is right now. It's not. It's not even that magical in your early 20's…
While I'm certainly not promoting promiscuity, Miley, you and your fellow Hanna Montanas need to know that "magical" (aka, "Hot" sex, typically discussed over brunch with your best girlfriends the next day) takes LOTS and LOTS of practice. It takes good experiences, BAD (oh, trust me, you need some BAD experiences under your belt to appreciate magic) and LOADS of self awareness to have the kind of sex that ignites fireworks. I'm sure what you're doing feels great and is “special.” But I'm just sayin: You’ve hardly hit the jackpot yet, my dear. You haven’t seen magic just yet.
Miley, you may have been exposed to a lot at a young age and you may be wise beyond your years, but be careful.... The little girls out there who don't know how to move their hips "like yeaaaaaaaaaah" are walking in your footsteps and thinking they're missing out. Let's remind them that they are perfect they way they are and the thing that is most magical in life is TIME.
You've got that now, baby. Take your time. And enjoy it.