Facebook for Couples Makes Some Want to Vomit..Really?
Facebook recently announced its “Couples Page” where couples now have a new profile that pulls the photos, status updates, and likes of both individuals in the relationship onto a single page.
Some people are disgusted, with one blogger stating she wants to outright “vomit”.
Let’s put aside the fact that you can hide, deselect, and opt-out of what comes up on your Facebook stream, and say you are friends with someone who is happily Facebooking their relationship. What is so disgusting about that?
I am not a fan of people who insist that single people, especially women, find a man or have babies. I hate when these pressures and expectations to be with someone are placed on a woman, where she is labeled somehow deficient due to her single status. I believe that a woman can very well have and lead a fulfilling, rewarding life without being in a relationship.
But I don’t get this inability to just be happy for people who are – even if you yourself aren’t. I don’t get why me being excited about my husband, and our love, is so annoying to anyone else. Don’t follow me. Block me. Turn away. Freaking run away for all I care – but don’t let it bring up your lunch.
Turns out I talk about how much I love my husband a lot on my social media space. I talk about how happily married I am, and how great we get along – though my closest of friends have also heard of the times when we don’t.
And after 10 years together I am very excited about us, about him – not because I’ve “lost my identity” or can’t think for myself, but because I know what it feels like to not have these things.
I know what it feels like to be in an abusive relationship. I know what it feels like to be with someone you don’t love, who treats you badly. I remember all the frogs I kissed before I met my husband, and all the “I am woman, hear me roar” air fist pumps and walls I built up to protect myself and claim independence and self-love.
I remember it like it was yesterday. And though I had sworn off marriage and relationships by the time I met my husband and I made it very difficult for him to break down all those walls and all that pride, he fought for us. He fought for us and for me, before I completely gave in to what we have.
I am the child of divorced parents. I have seen it again and again in the lives of people I love. And though it is clear in many cases that they are better off because of it (just as I was after my own divorce) it is no less the result of a relationship that didn’t last.
Being in a positive, loving relationship is harder to find than most people like to admit and being married is not for everyone – but being in love is a wonderful emotion that I am happy to celebrate. I have a great guy. I have a good life. I have a beautiful family. There is no guarantee of forever, for anyone, so I celebrate each and every day that we find ourselves here, in this place of love. I am unapologetic about it, as I think those of us who are happy should be. Never apologize or be ashamed for your joy. Some of us had to go through some sh*t to get here. And we are grateful.
I don’t expect people to agree, I certainly don’t expect people to understand, and if the fact that there is another way in which happy couples can share their love to the world is disgusting to others then what I do expect is for them to unfriend me, block me, hide me from their timeline altogether.
But don’t vomit or judge us as pathetic dependent losers for being in love and for being happy about it.
Cause that’s just sad.