Is it Ever Okay to Trash-Talk Your Husband?
After watching this week’s “Pretty Wicked Moms”, I have one question:
Ladies, are you crazy?
When the moms left their husbands and kids behind for a girls-gone-wild weekend in Miami, I was expecting some drinking, some debauchery and maybe some bitchiness. I wasn’t expecting them to totally throw their spouses under the bus.
During a wine-fueled girl talk, Nicole B. described her husband Craig as a 45-year-old child with a big mouth. She even implied that he’s not well endowed.
Not to be outdone, Meredith complained that her husband Brad is the cheapest man alive.
Emily, in a rare show of vulnerability, confessed that Pete is distant and never calls her.
Nicole N. griped that Patrick doesn’t hop to it when she needs help around the house.
Only Miranda demurred, labeling her husband a perfectionist—you know, the same thing job applicants say when asked to name their biggest “fault.” The other ladies were annoyed by her lack of candor, but I bet Miranda’s the only wife not begging for forgiveness now that the show has aired. Seriously, do the moms not realize they’re on national television?
Even if the wives’ trash talking had been private, not televised, I think it’s risky airing dirty laundry in a group setting. A lot of women tell their husbands everything, and husbands have a way of forgetting what’s supposed to be a secret. Before you know it, the lady gossip gets back to the men, and the “cheap” and “childish” labels are being tossed around in the gym locker room like it’s junior high. That doesn’t seem fair.
Maybe I’m naive, but shouldn’t your spouse be the one person you can trust completely? I think it’s fine to joke about your relationship, or even confide marital problems to a close friend, but some of these comments just seemed mean. It was like the ladies were trying to one-up each other at the expense of their husbands, who, by the way, were home taking care of their kids, making this whole girls’ weekend possible in the first place. Shouldn’t that count for something?
Marci says married women love to trash their husbands. Do you think that’s true? I’m no expert – I’m still engaged to my baby’s daddy, and while I’m excited to get hitched, these ladies aren’t making marriage seem all that appealing.
I’d love to hear from some married women out there: is a certain amount of husband-bashing healthy, or do you think it’s a betrayal? Where should wives draw the line?
Watch "Pretty Wicked Moms" Tuesday nights at 10/9c on Lifetime!