Melissa Gorga's “Love Italian Style” Is More Like “Love Caveman Style”
New Jersey's saucy housewife, Melissa Gorga and her very old school Italian husband, Joe are serving up the finer points of how to keep a marriage spicy and sexy in Melissa’s book, “Love Italian Style”.
As a woman married for 14 years, I am all about learning new tips and tricks to spice things up in my bedroom. Unfortunately, the Gorga's version of how to keep one’s sex life and marriage on track is more about domination than anything else.
Here is just a sampling of the advice Gorga doles out when it comes to sex with your husband:
[A] woman needs to keep herself in shape. She has to be seductive. She must be willing to try new things for her husband’s pleasure and her own. And, most important, she has to be available for sex.
And to drive home this point of making sure a wife is always ready and waiting to submit to the needs of her husband, Joe Gorga interjects this pearl of wisdom about how wives want to be involved in some kind of S&M scenario in bed.
Men, I know you think your woman isn't the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says "no," turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated.
Women don't realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.
There has caused a hailstorm of controversy over this book- which seems to condone a form of marital rape and of course, Melissa Gorga has fired back against the criticism.
Melissa spoke to E! News and vehemently denied promoting any sort of marital rape agenda. "That is so awful. That word is so disgusting to me and that's horrible," said Gorga. “It’s just about the playfulness, it's about teasing," she continued, "it's about being aggressive and trying new things in the bedroom. It's not about, 'Hey honey, I have a headache tonight,' and your husband's going to take it from you. Come on. When you and your husband are happy, it trickles down to the whole family.”
I get it. I understand that sometimes you need to make sex a priority even when you are feeling a little bloated and you are tired from working all day and all you really want to do is watch a Lifetime movie and call it a night. I get that. And I can appreciate Melissa attempting to tell wives that if they are not giving their husband sex, their husband s will look for it elsewhere. And to an extent that is true, but what is missing from this book is the fact that marriage is a two way street and in order for it to be successful- both partners need to work at fulfilling the other’s sexual and personal needs. They forgot the chapter about what the WIFE wants and desires too.
Unfortunately, much of the success of the Gorga marriage is wrapped up in how often and how much she will agree to submit to him. And that’s where her advice goes off the deep end. What this book fails to provide is how a husband can pleasure his wife both — in sex and marriage. Melissa’s advice seems to be all about serving her husband and in my humble opinion that kind of thinking is a major recipe for disaster in terms of one’s own sense of worth and ultimately for a marriage.
What do you think?