Romantic Travel: Why We Should & Where To Go
In my time as a travel blogger I have heard - and have experienced myself - pretty much every reason why traveling alone with your partner or husband after kids is hard, if not impossible.
We often get so caught up in the daily responsibilities of raising and caring for a family that we forget to nurture the lover, friend, and partner connection in our relationships, something which can affect so many different areas in our lives, including our own self-esteem, outlook on life and happiness.
We know the challenges: money, daycare, and time. My husband and I have all of those challenges, especially since we have no family nearby to rely on for care or assistance. So we have had to take on all of these challenges by planning ahead, and making our alone time a big enough priority that it gets its own little area in our monthly budgeting plans. If you are like us, here are some tips that might help you start to plan that little getaway:
When you first start planning a trip, start looking for the right babysitter. Have them care for the kids while you are still in town while planning a late night out, one where she/he will be required to put the kids to bed. This helps familiarize them with the routines and allows them to ask questions. It also gets the kids used to having someone else care for them at one of their most sensitive times of the day – bedtime. Discuss the idea of staying overnight, and most important discuss fees. We pay our babysitter one set fee per day when we are gone. Discussing this ahead of time helps budget your trip.
We have found that 3 days is about the time when my husband and I start missing our boys a lot, so much so that we are often eager to get back to them. But you don’t need 3 days to connect with your partner. Sometimes an overnight getaway is all it takes. Just make sure nothing - no computers, no television, nothing - will interrupt your precious time. Honor and value this time, guard it with passion as it may be awhile before you get the chance to be alone like this again.
I recommend that if you are just starting to “date” and leaving the kids with someone else, and if you have little ones, it might make you more comfortable to go somewhere not to far from home. Trust me when I tell you, the kids will be alright – they are more independent than we often give them credit for, but it might just help you to know you are close, until you get comfortable going further.
Need ideas of where to go? Here are some of our favorite, most walk-friendly (while holding hands of course) romantic destinations:
New York, though our home, is where we started to take little romantic escapes away from our kids. There are so many hotels, eateries, and things to do for couples-only in this wonderful city that even an overnight stay will make up for all those romantic moments missed at home.
New Orleans with its jazz bars, great food and laid back feel make this a great destination for couples. Romantic hotels, such as the Le Richelieu in the French Quarter, with its old world feel, quiet ambiance, and tall French windows make for the perfect romantic setting.
San Francisco offers so much, including breath taking views and sunsets, quiet shores, and serene parks to lounge in and cuddle. Boutiques, romantic bed and breakfasts, as well as speakeasy bars with secret passwords and dimmed lights, makes falling in love over and over easy.
Santa Fe is one of those places that make me feel happy and relaxed. The picturesque colors and scenes of Santa Fe serve as inspiration for artists worldwide. The same can inspire romance in any visiting couple.
Madeline Island is about a 6.5-hour drive from Madison, WI and it feels like you’ve entered another world. The slow pace of island living, along with beaches, small shops and eateries, as well as bike, canoe and kayak rentals makes for a laid back retreat. This is not a place where you will find activities galore or huge crowds, ideal for conversation and connecting.
Montreal makes this list because of its short distance from NYC. Best way to get there (if not flying) is by car – 7 hours from the city and it makes for a great drive. Once in Montreal, leave the car and walk this romantic city with endless activities, eateries, and opportunities to say “Je t’aime” over and over.